I have a hard time talking about what happened. Why?

It's normal to have a hard time talking about something traumatic that has happened to us. We feel like we are putting ourselves in a vulnerable place and we don't know the reactions of others when we tell them about our situation.

It's hard to open up about something that happened because people usually try to forget it or they're scared to be judged/blamed for what happened.

Traumatic experiences are something that hurt every time you resurrect the memory. Talking reminds you of that and forces you to vocalize it.

Because of what happened in the past. My family wants me to be quiet about the family secret. I choose not to do be quiet I choose help people who have been through I have been through.

It can always be a difficult thing to talk to people about things that have happened to us. Its not a weird or uncommon thing. Often we are worried about what they think about us. We are worried about their reaction, who they might tell, and what they might do! I know from my own experience any time I tell someone something that has happened I usually feel like a weight has been lifted off of my shoulders! xoxo ~Emily

Several reasons; 1) We are ashamed of what happened to us, so we think that we are dirty, unclean, or unworthy of compassion, and therefore we don't want to tell anyone about it because we fear they may judge us negatively for the experience. 2) We feel that it is a weakness. Someone hurt you very badly, if you expose that part of yourself to another, they could hurt you too. Weakness is also something that many people are ashamed of. 3) Someone, at some point, either told, or suggested, that you remain silent. If you observed a violent crime, or were the victim of domestic abuse or assault, and the perpetrator said "Don't tell of I will hurt you and your family", that can cause your subconscious to place a sort of lock on the memory. Your conscious mind knows the reality of the situation, but your subconscious still thinks "I, or my loved ones, could be hurt if I talk." 4) If you aren't in a safe and controlled environment, talking about it could just bring up the memories, or induce flashbacks, with no resolution. These are all good reasons why talking to a therapist is really important. In that environment you know that you are safe, will not be judged, and that any memories and/or flashbacks that you have will be dealt with by a trained professional.

It could be that you're still processing it yourself or you don't know how to put your feelings into words.

Sometimes talking about trauma can be upsetting because it forces you to recall details about the incident that make you feel distressed.

It's normal that you don't feel comfortable with talking about what happened to you. Maybe you just need to figure out stuff for you on your own before you talk to other people. :)

Talking about bad things that have happened are hard, we might feel emotional or upset because we have to look back on memories that may hurt or feel uncomfortable. But the best thing you can do is talk!