I grew up in a traumatic home, but my siblings disagrees with me about what happened. Who is right?

Its never important whether who is right or wrong about their experience in the matter. No one is 100% right or 100% wrong, but everyone's perspective is valuable and should be treated that way. There must be a respect for everyone's experience, because it was real to them. The best way to respond is with a heart of understanding, not judgment.

Sadly, in some situations, you can both be right. What happened to you as a youngster might have been hidden from your sibling so they were unaware of what was happening. It's not an easy situation to overcome, as sometimes the other sibling simply refuses to believe anything bad was happening purely because they were shielded from it, which in turn makes you feel isolated. Sitting down with your sibling and talking about what happened may help bring closure to the situation, or at least bring you closer together. Sometimes it's best to do this in a professional environment, so that if things get heated you have a neutral person there to help calm things down. I hope this has been of some help to you and I wish you all the best.

You are right. If you feel that your experiences were traumatic, that is your choice. Everyone perceives situations differently and you have every right to say that you grew up in a traumatic household if you believe it.

In my experience, two people can remember the same event in very different ways. I don't think either person is wrong. They are just remembering events the way their brain processed the information. I try to keep that in mind when dealing with situations like yours. I have found it easier just to acknowledge the other persons memories as their reality and agree to disagree. Maybe your sibling would reciprocate the respect and you both could open a dialogue regarding your conflicting memories. I truly hope everything gets better.

You may both have a version of events that is "right" to your own experience. Your sibling does not need to agree with your version of events 100% in order for your feelings about what happened to you to be valid.

Well everyone experiance things in a different way and if you experianced it as a traumatic home then its ok. No ones wrong

I also grew up in a not so happy home. I learned throughout life to cope with my emotions and talk it out with my siblings. I have 3 siblings, 2 sisters and 1 brother. We don't always agree on everything, but to relate, we always resolve arguments by talking it through and being mature about it.

Both of you, trauma is subjective, so if you feel like it was a traumatic time then to you it was but if your sibling disagrees then to them it wasn't.

From personal experience, I've learned that in some trauma cases, everyone affected creates their own version of what happened, which is typical in everyday life. We all have our own version of every story.

I wouldn't look on this as 'Who is right?'; but rather, acknowledge that different people have different situated knowledges and perspectives about situations. It may be better to agree to disagree and enjoy the relationship with your sibling, whilst working through your issues with any trauma with an objective professional.