Am I allowed to start being upset and getting help for emotional abuse 3 years after it happened?

Yes. Of course you are. OF course, it might not change how you feel, but I was in your situation. A lot of the time we don't even know that it was abuse until years down the line. We don't know that the first step is to charm the victim, the second to isolate them, and the third to threaten and see how they take it. But emotional abuse is a very serious topic and everyone should feel safe getting help for it. It's not too late.

Yes, you are allowed to feel upset whenever you feel the time is right. No one can tell you when to feel sad and when it is right to get help; do it whenever you feel you need to.

Yes you are! Those feeling are normal, no one should be treated that way even if the person telling you these things say "you deserved it" spoiler alert no one deserves any type of abuse! And as for getting help, it is never too late to get help!

You are absolutely allowed to start being upset and subsequently getting help 3 years after the event. There's no "right" time for the emotions to come and everyone will experience something different. Receiving the right help is the most important thing of all not how long you decided to wait to seek it.

Sure you are, but remember the abuse happened in the past, and of course the best thing about the past is to learn to let go of it by accepting the past will never change, no matter how bad or good it was. The only thing that can change is the now,

Yes, of course you are. Sometimes you don't realize what a situation has done to you until you are far enough away to make sense of it. If you are in pain, seek to heal yourself and truly leave this abuse in the past.

Sounds like a lot is coming up for you right now. Your feelings are valid whether it was last week or fifty years before that you suffered abuse. I'm very sorry that happened to you and you deserve to be heard. Getting help and feeling your feelings in non-judgement and compassion are both appropriate and courageous. Way to go in making that decision. How can I help?

Yes, totally you are allowed to! It's not that uncommon to either block out, try not to think about abuse, or have other reasons for not asking for help sooner. Later on when you feel safer, and more able to deal / cope with talking about it, then you might start thinking more about, and becoming even more upset about what happened to you. At that time you may reach out for support. There is nothing wrong with that at all, and you are entirely entitled to the same help as someone who sort help sooner. You are not to blame for whenever you felt safe enough to as for help. I'm glad you able to begin get help now!

You are absolutely allowed to become upset over abuse at any time, even several years after it occurred. Sometimes people don't fully realize that they were in an abusive situation until months or years later, and it's not only okay to respond this way, but it's a very normal response to that realization.

Anytime is a good time to work on yourself no matter what the issue it good to work on onea feelings having them is fine.