Am I allowed to start being upset and getting help for emotional abuse 3 years after it happened?

Of course you are. People are different, biologically and psychologically, each person is affected by things in a different way from others and it is not necessary that you feel upset directly when something happens. Your personality might decide to simply suppress things and then when something happens, regardless of what that is, it can be a trigger to releasing your emotions. So, this is normal

Yes, never apologize for your feelings. You are valid. The things that happened is real and any form of abuse is wrong. Getting help is important an I am proud of you for getting help.

Absolutely, unquestionably, and totally, the answer is yes. There is no expiry date and no deadline on emotional healing, nor emotional expression, and it's extremely common for people to "bottle up" traumatic experiences as a way of coping with them at a time. But, you can't keep those feelings unaddressed and unresolved forever. Not only are you allowed to do that - after all, everyone is always allowed to express their emotions and seek help for their problems at any time - but you are doing absolutely the right thing, something that will help you feel stronger and more able to develop the emotional stability that you deserve. You deserve tremendous credit for addressing the issues; keep up the good work, and never feel that you need permission from anyone to heal.

It's not a case of being allowed, it's your own personal decision, so yes. You should be able to make a decision without the judgement of others. If you feel like you need the help then you can get it.

Firstly, it is wonderful you are getting support. The timeframe between the occurrence and beginning able to process the emotions varies tremendously. Respect your strength and trust the process you are experiencing. Small, deliberate steps can be exceptionally healing. You sound as though you are on your way.

After effects from emotional abuse, can affect you at any time not a specific. But yes, you're allowed until you've learned to cope with it and get into a better situation.

You can get help for any type of abuse no matter how long ago it happened. There are no time limits on abuse. Sometimes it takes years for the emotions of abuse to surface

Whether something happens three days, or even three months pass. The feeling that you get will never go away. You learn to cope. However, coping is never easy. Especially depending on the reason for the new condition, or even a very old one. One thing I do know speaking from experience you have to surround yourself with friends, loved ones, or even a group if you're into that sort of thing. For me I still have hard times. I hope whoever wrote this knows that the 7 cups community is here for you. Including myself. :-)

YES. It's not too late at all. In fact, the sooner, the better, because issues that fester below the surface can get worse. That happened to me. By the time I could face the issue, I had more anger than I did originally. But I still got through it. Besides, 3 years is not that long, really. And remember, there is no need to feel bad for not facing it right away - sometimes we just need time to be ready. It is just best to face it as soon as we are up to it at all. And remember, if you don't have to face it alone, if there are safe people to listen and help, take advantage of that. In real life or on 7 cups. A load shared is easier to carry.

You are definitely allowed to be upset about it now. Sometimes the hard-hitting realization doesn't actually hit for a long time.