Am I allowed to start being upset and getting help for emotional abuse 3 years after it happened?

Yes, it doesn't matter how long it has been and people will be willing to help. Getting help is a big step you have to take to overcome the feelings that you have been feeling. So, I think it is a very courageous act. It is good that you recognize the feelings you are having like being upset. Even after 3 years, you still hold the right to consult a professional for help or even just talking to a friend. It is never too late to get help- know that emotional abuse is not ok. Be confident with yourself and you will eventually heal from the pain.

Absolutely! Our brain often waits until we feel safe to start processing trauma, so it can start to surface way later than expected. It's always okay to seek out help, no matter how long you've waited. By seeking help, later on, you are being tremendously brave, and working to better yourself. No matter how long ago the abuse happened, it is never too late to start getting care and working to be a healthier and happier version of yourself. Congrats on being able to recognize you need help getting better. It's one of the hardest parts of the recovery process.

This is of course allowed, and is likely to stay with you some time. It doesn't matter how long ago it was, it will almost definitely take a while for you to get over it. The length it take for you to start feeling better about things like this varies from person to person; there is no limit on how long it should take - there are no rules of what is and isn't allowed for anything traumatic to become less hurtful, and you don't even have to recover from it; nobody should be rushing you, not even yourself. But, I hope, everything will be okay, and you will start to feel better soon

It is always ok or allowed for you to do what you need to for yourself toward healing and working through experiences; it's also ok to do this without the approval of others as you are in control of yourself. In other words, never be ashamed of doing what feels best for you relating to self-care. Yes if you feel upset, after 3 years there's nothing wrong with that, and seeking help might help you sort through this situation better as you continue to process it. There is no set amount of time for the process of healing, it's individual.

Absolutely. We are each moving along our path in different ways. The way our brain deals with trauma is not always straight forward. Some people may imediantly notice they are being emotionally used, manipulated, or abused, and will have access and ability to respond in a healthy, helpful way right away. Others may take a long time to figure out what happened, how it affected them, what it means, and that they are truly hurt by what had happened. Our brain usually acts in a way to protect us. That sometimes would include giving us ways to deal with what had happened to us that avoid the actual problem we are meant to be dealing with. This can all happen at different times and you are 100% allowed to experience it at your own pace. And I am very proud of you if you are getting help for this emotional abuse now!

You are allowed to get help for any problem at any time you need. Survivors of abuse often need time to process what has happened to them. It's a painful process that can take years and looks different for everyone. Like any traumatic event, we go through stages of grief before we arrive at acceptance and decide to seek help. Taking the step towards healing through therapy or other counseling should be celebrated! You are very brave and strong for taking this step forward. There is no need to feel guilty or ashamed of how long your journey has been or your negative emotions that surround the abuse. I'm so glad you are reaching out and getting help!

First of all I'm sorry to hear what you went through, I hope you're doing well now! And yes of course! It is never too late to get help when needed, whether it is from a therapist, family, friends, or just Listeners on 7Cup! You should always feel comfortable getting help no matter how long ago it was. I'm guessing it was only recently you realized what you went through and truly understood that what happened 3 years ago was emotional abuse, so you feel upset only now. Nothing to feel ashamed or embarrassed of, our mind always denies that we're facing abuse and that is just a part of being humans! In short, YES! You are allowed to start being upset and get help now!

ofcourse...grief has no schedule. it may take time to emerge but whenever it does, you deserve to get help for it, because you can't put your feeling on a time table, or in your control. the only thing we do control about them is how you deal with it. and i think the proper way to deal with them is by accepting them and letting no one else define for you what is allowed and not allowed when it comes to your feelings. Abuse tends to ruin lives and even though you are by far the strongest person i have seen, who went for 3 years without crumbling, you also need help. and now would be a great time😊💖

Yes. If you have feelings about something which bothers you till date and you think it is causing you stress then it is advisable to reach for help. I may not know your full story but I can say anything which causes you emotional worry or even trauma deserves attention. It is completely fair and your mental and emotional health should always be your first priority. If you feel guilty or have second thoughts, you can discuss this with somebody like a doctor or someone close to you. Sometimes pent-up feelings can arise and interfere in life after some years when triggered by something. So it is normal to take advice or seek help to feel better. Have a good day !

Yes, of course, you are allowed to do that. It is never too late to realize that you need help and ask for it. Many people have experienced abuse in their childhood and of course, they were not able to fully understand what was happening to them. But it is crucial to meet your needs whenever you realize that they exist. It doesn't matter why you needed to wait a few years to start getting help. What matters is that you are taking responsibility for your life and your well-being. That is what's most important and it's something to be proud of.