Am I allowed to start being upset and getting help for emotional abuse 3 years after it happened?

Certainly! You feel what you feel, and there are no rules about when it's ok to feel it. There is no time limit on suffering - and you are allowed to get help whenever you wish. If it is coming up in your thoughts a lot recently, it shows that you are still affected by it, and it still needs to be acknowledged and dealt with. There are people here on 7cups who have had similar experiences - chatting with one of them may help, and they can direct you to professional resources as well. Do what you need to move past it - no permission required. :)

You are 100% allowed to feel that way. What happened affected your life probably hard and its hard to just forget about it. Its normal and completely understandable if you get upset and want help over past trauma. Don't be hard on yourself for wanting help, if it hurt you and made you feel bad, you need to do what is best for you and what will make you feel your best and safe. Everyone gets help and its nothing to be ashamed of, its a natural thing to get help. And you are allowed to feel anyway after something bad affected you.

Of course you are. Emotional abuse is not like breaking your toe, having it set wrong, and then not being able to change it after some time. Emotional abuse is something that can stay with you for the rest of your life and it's never too late to look for help. If there has been a delay in your response to it (for example only getting upset now) it could be that you've suppressed the feelings associated with the abuse and now you're ready to confront them. If you feel like you need help, don't hesitate to reach out to any of the listeners on this platform!

Of course you are! Sometimes, it takes that long and even longer to realize that what you were going through was abuse. Especially when you're in a manipulative situation, it can be very hard to identify what's going on until after it's done and you've had time to recover. Nobody should give you permission or "allow" you to express your feelings, those are up to you and you only. If you finally realized that what you went through was wrong, it's perfectly acceptable to be upset and want to get help. Even if you possibly knew that what was happening was wrong, it was never your fault. Getting help is always an option, no matter how long it takes.

Absolutely! Often, people do not realize that they were being abused until much later. Getting help is important and amazing! You should be proud of yourself for recognizing your needs and acting on them. All of your feelings and reactions are valid. You are allowed to react however you want. You have the right to be upset for as long as you need no matter how long ago the abuse took place. By getting help you are one step closer to healing and moving on. You deserve to feel better and heal fully!

Of course- the pain of emotional abuse doesn't go away until you get help and express your feelings about it. That can take as long as needed. Getting help is the most important thing to do, and I know personally how it can affect people. Once you express to someone how you feel, you can find out how to deal with the issue, and then you can be free from that past. It will feel like a weight off your shoulder, and you will be more confident to trust people. So yes, you are allowed to be upset and seek help even 3 years after emotional abuse occurred.

Of course, you're allowed to feel upset about emotional abuse. Emotional abuse can cause really deep emotional scars and it's normal to feel that pain 3 (or even more) years after. You have every right to get the help you need to deal and process that abuse, whether it be through talking to a close confidant or reaching out to a therapist. It's better for your mental health to let out your frustrations and express them to others than to hold them in and let that pain build up. One of the first steps to recovery is to address the pains that you experience and learning to process them.

Seeking help for past traumas is always a good thing as that severe emotional abuse can contribute to low self-esteem and depression in the long term. The time lapse between the emotional abuse and therapy should be short but the victim may not be prepared to share their feelings or even talk about the abuses. Usually the victim of emotional abuse need time to process the hurt before being ready to talk about it objectively. Do seek help for any troubling behaviours or thoughts that you may have. Do not try to tackle these alone. Identify supportive people and tools to assist you to untangle from your emotional wounds.Never give up on yourself.

There’s never a “right time”. Your emotions don’t have a time table. That’s why it’s so important to get help when you are ready. If you’re ready now go and get the help you need. You have every right to be upset and in pain. Don’t be afraid to speak up for yourself and the hurt you’ve been through. For some people it might take days to get help, others it might be years. Some may never be able to talk about their trauma. What’s important is that you recognized that maybe talking to somebody may help you.

It is okay whenever you realize it. It is the beginning of acceptance on one's part. Sometimes we just repress the emotions that feel unpleasant to us and keep on going forward. Though it makes you feel that everything is okay, not acknowledging emotional abuse is like ignoring the elephant in the room. By choosing to be blind to the abuse, you are not able to be an objective judge of the situation and thus get more embroiled in a situation which is not good for you. It is good to realize this, no matter when the realization comes. Some lessons take time. If you are asking for help, it means you are acknowledging the issue head on now. Its a start to becoming your whole self again.