How do you avoid hurting a persons feelings when they are disable?

when someone is disble they dont want to be treated like one disabled so be hos/her friend forgotng that its someone disabled ^^

As a person who is a part of that group I will tell you that everyone is different, but make sure you treat them the same as you would anyone else. One of the biggest things is that there won't always be others around and people in this situation may have to do things for themselves. Make sure you give them a chance to try, if they need help they will ask for it, but don't do it for them without asking, They might be offended.

Talk to the person instead of over or about them. Listen patiently, especially if speech impediment is a symptom of the disability. Treat the person with the same dignity and respect that you should be getting. Do not insult in thought, word or deed towards the person. Hold doors open or help navigate other challenging areas if you can do so but leave them alone if there seems to be no trouble. Sit with them for lunch if you're both on campus or at work that day. Take plenty of time to get to know the person, and you should soon see a heart of gold behind the frail shell.

From personal experience, try to picture yourself in their shoes as if you were dealing with what they are. It helps to view it from a whole other perspective.

I try to remind myself that they are a person too. As someone who has an "invisible" disability - one that cannot be told by looking at me - I think I try harder to get that no one wants to be categorized.

Do your best to treat them as you would anyone else, except in situations where they obviously cannot do things "normally" and at that point, I would just be honest & politely ask them how you should handle the situation. There are so many different disabilities, and different attitudes among those who are disabled. Some disabled folks despise being seen as disabled and do very well at adapting around their handicaps so they may get offended if you try to help them, or even mention the handicaps. However, there are also disabled folk who perhaps haven't fully accepted their situation, or are newly disabled, or having great difficulty finding adaptions, and they end up frustrated & lonely. Those folks often wish you would give them a helping hand, and definitely to lend a listening ear. It is certainly better to ask then to end up avoiding the person because you don't know what to say. Tl:dr version: When in doubt, be open & politely ask, "Friend, I'm afraid to say something insensitive that will hurt your feelings, can you please help me know how to best treat/talk to you?" Also find out if they appreciate or despise being offered assistance. I'm disabled, and I know it's a touchy subject, but this is my view on it :)

Firstly, no one is disabled, they are just differently able. Thing is differently abled people are just like us, only with a bit more suffering in life, and hurting such a person who is already going through so much is not only sadistic but also very unbecoming of us as fellow human beings. The way I see it, if we treat them with the same level of compassion as we do with others, they will feel boosted and morally uplifted. Afterall, If one person breathed easier because of you, that is success, and who doesn't wants to be a successful person.

I am disabled and i can tell from my own experience that these are the behaviours of others which hurt my feelings the most: 1) ghosting, when a friend (even though we haven't got close relationships but we are friends) suddenly stops communicating with me for no apparent reason, with no explanation and no intention to set a compromise or conciliate a conflict 2) bullying/harrassment when someone belittles me due to my disability, 3) when someone thinks that they know what is best for me and do stuff for me without asking me what i wish and whether i wish what they wish to do to me; 4) when a friend wants only to talk about my disability and symphatize (not emphatize) with me and my disability but they aren't interested of talking about their flaws, they aren't interested in talking about anything else apart of my disability (they see only my disability but not me as a person); 4) when someone (especially in authority) says that i must have help, must had help (in the past), must have gone to special institute for disabled, etc; 5) If they don't want to be with me just because of my disability (sometimes it is evident from their communication with me - sorry, but also caregivers can hurt my feelings this way - i know that they need rest but that we can't drink a cup of coffee together and talk a bit it is insane from them and hurts my feelings as i feel discriminated this way). If you avoid do above mentioned things to your disabled acquaintance or friend, you can avoid a lot of hurting of disabled person's feelings.