why do I want to self-harm if I've never done it before?

It may be that you have a feeling of a lot of pain or stress built up inside you and you are looking for a way to release it. It may be that you have had positive experiences from pain and are looking for that tiny adrenaline rush that you get when you prick your finger for example. Adrenaline is released when we hurt ourselves, to help us feel better - and adrenaline feels REALLY GOOD. It's probably what you are looking for. But you know where else you can get adrenaline? Exercise. Scary movies. Roller coasters. Did I mention exercise? If you have not self harmed but you are thinking about it, it is probably best to seek professional help. I would strongly advise you NOT to try it, because it is VERY hard to stop.

Do things that distract you when u think self harm thoughts. Please do not fall into the same trap of self harm that I did it will get you addicted. You will always be wanting one more cut or burn or bruise. So yeah think positively. Talk to someone etc.

One answer could be that your life feels out of your control, often it is that you want to feel in control of your life so you do things that aren't normally what you would do. Inflicting harm upon yourself would be a way to have control over your own pain or life. This is simply one possible explanation and if you are seriously considering self harm please look into counseling or other supportive options.

curiosity may lead to a lot of things! also, when you're depressed, it doesn't really matter if you've done it or not, you'll still wanna do it

It is because you are scared to physically harm yourself. You might hate seeing the scars in your body or just want to hide the truth about yourself. It doesn't matter, you just want to punish yourself for being who you are. You punish yourself since you are not perfect, but in the end, no one is perfect to begin with

This is interesting to consider, I believe that part of this notion, this sensation, this desire to self harm comes about due to our human nature--the human condition. As humans, the body, mind and souls are all very complex and dynamic; sometimes we are in control of our feeling and emotions (so we believe), and others, we become overridden, overtaken, and burdened by such emotions, such desires. Its okay, it happens, these thoughts appear, disappear, and sometimes reoccur--its all part of the human condition; take it easy and slow, make the best and most rational choices, be strong and pursue what is forward; you can do it.

Perhaps you are feeling overwhelmed, stressed, depressed, and are having trouble getting relief and coping, so self-harming may seem like an option. Avoid it because you will only feel worse in the long run and be hurting yourself. It is not a solution to your problems nor a good way to cope. I recommend other coping strategies such as meditation, exercise, and a creative hobby like music, art or blogging. Incorporating these activities into your life can help you feel much better and provide an outlet for negative feelings and stress. Take things one step at a time and be compassionate towards yourself. By doing this, over time things will get better. You can do it.

This may not be your case, but it was mine, and I feel it could be helpful to share it. When I've self-harmed in the past, it's been primarily because I feel I deserve the pain. It's a sort of self-punishment. Because of anxiety I constantly worry and feel horrible regret at the smallest of things; I've spent sleepless nights flinching over the repeating memory of accidentally not holding the door open for an old woman, calling myself a horrible and inconsiderate human being. Any event like this could cause me to hurt myself. To punish myself. Many, many things can cause you to want to self-harm. Guilt, pain, stress, depression, even masochism; anything can be a catalyst. I spoke with someone close to me about it and just admitting to them that I did it, that I was actively doing it at the time, helped me through it. It helps having someone that supports you. If you haven't done it yet, DON'T. Talk to someone instead. Turn to a trusted friend, to a family member, and seek professional help if you have the resources.

Sometimes we have urges to do things we've never done before. This action though is not something you should do. Take a step back and look at your life. If you are struggling with something dont hesitate to message anyone on the site. Stay safe and take care!

when i might take things very seriously then they are in result i mess up and after that i self harm myself as a punishment