Why do I wake up thinking about my ex?

Because of the habit. It took some times before you can start living with those memories. It varies from person to person. It's quiet hard at the beginning but one day you'll realize it is not bothering you anymore. For me first time it took me around 1 years but eventually I can stop thinking about her. Time heals everything. Just try to survive and keep hoping. Don't try to forget or forcefully erase those memories, it won't work trust me. try to live with those memories. Try to calm yourself and teach yourself that you don't care whatever happens to him or her.

Why do I wake up and think about breakfast ~ ? Why don't I wake up and think about my ex? I could think about my ex if I wanted. I'm thinking about her right now. And just like that, she is gone from my mind again. Every thought is a memory. We choose the things that we want to recall. What you're thinking about at the time, is precisely what you WANT to think about. When people miss their exes, thinking about and pining after their exes is a way of bringing them back. It's not real in any way, but it does make people feel comforted. What are your feelings towards your ex? Do you still love her? Do you have regrets about your separation? Do you feel angry, or lack some kind of closure? Resentment? Whatever your feelings, they will govern your thoughts, and your behaviour also. If you instead woke up each morning and thought about breakfast, you might find you will start thinking about your ex less. But if you wake up and think about your ex - it's precisely because some part of you WANTS to think about your ex.

When your ex didn't affect your life significantly, its easy to move on, its easy to go long periods of time without thinking of them unless they come up in a conversation or something. However, if you loved someone. If this person affected the way you saw the world and yourself. Worse still if the situation did not end well, then you will have memories come up. Its a way for your mind to resolve what happened or fill in the blanks. This is perfectly normal especially if you are on the road of self discovery and healing. There is the temptation to squash these memories because we think moving on means completely ignoring the past

Waking up thinking about your ex is confusing and sometimes frustrating, but it is your heart showing you how much you have grown since you and your ex parted ways. Your heart is telling you that you have the utmost strength to get through anything in life, even if something may have broken your heart. Waking up with this thought about your ex is not something you should get mad at yourself for doing. Do not think that this thought means you are weak or that you are not strong. Look at it as a reminder that you are growing and that you have gone through so much and strive to keep on going! I remember being in a similar situation myself about a month ago and once I started looking at these thoughts as progress in my own self, I truly started to believe that I could get through any situation by switching to a more positive viewpoint! I did it, and so can you! I believe in you!

Your brain may still be processing the break up, especially if its fairly new. Quite often it can take time for the brain to process that your ex may not be around in the same way he was before and your goals and hopes for the future may now be changing, your brain may just be processing that. Another reason could be that something unconsciously may have triggered a memory associated with him and bought him forward in your mind, for example perhaps you see a chair he often liked to sit in or a cup on your bedside table that he used to like and its reminded you of him without you realising the link, this is normal. If you are feeling unwanted emotions around it then it can always help to talk to someone whether it be a friend, family member or a listener on here :)