Why do I hate myself so much?

There can be multiple reasons for experiencing self hatred and low self esteem. Depression or other mental illnesses can be the reason for the hatred that you are experiencing and as you are working on the problem you will find that it gets easier to think more kindly of yourself. You’re not the only one who thinks that way about themselves and it’s important to keep in mind that ones perception of oneself can differ greatly from the way other people see you. What can be helpful is imagining to think of yourself the way you would think of a friend. You might find that it’s easier to forgive yourself mistakes, accept your weaknesses and recognize your strengths. Ultimately keep in mind that every person deserves love, respect and patience and that includes you, whether or not you’re able to recognize it at the time.

I think my self hate comes from the word should. I constantly feel things should be different. This creates lots of ways to flagellate myself. Things I should have done. Things I should not have done. Things I should do. Things I shouldn't do. The word should is always pulling me away from now. Much of what I do on here is encourage people to think about how things would be different if they could forget about should. But, it is easier to see other people's shoulds as different then mine.

you don't hate yourself, you just don't realize that there are so many more things good about you than there are bad things. you are always amazing. no matter what others think of you, you need to love your self for who you are and what you look like. the first thing to succeeding in life is loving yourself. you need self-esteem. you don't need people to tell you that you are pretty or nice you need to know that you are. it might not be easy when others are pulling you down but it is possible. so you don't hate yourself you just aren't realizing all the good things about you.

Hi there; I'm Frostwire, and Welcome to 7 Cups. From what I've read, it seems like you've been questioning your own intellectual response abilities. Alot about our individual selves becomes so overwhelming. This can cause hate torwards ones self; and, we don't need that do we? We deserve the best feelings do we not? But to better center your question, lets ask some more efficient questions; like: "When did I start feeling as if I hate Myself"? what took place before the commitment made towards myself? Is this individual thing the cause of other things that may have gone wrong? If this thing could be transformed into a strength; what could i do to make it into my strength? I've learned that mostly all forms of self hate have come from constant failures. These failures aren't always unknown about; but, can weigh the odds between growth and set backs. Hoping and thinking for your best intrest; I'm Frostwire, your 7 Cups supporting listener.

Hate for yourself is built in from an early age which is more than likely been installed by a parent/s in the way of self esteem or should i say lack of! which which then knocks your confidence way down and so the spiral of discontent with yourself starts and you start to realize the bad and negative things that goes on and start blaming yourself for and then that becomes the hate that i feel which needs to carefully captured before it runs out of control and start causing other issues such as depression and anxiety which has been the case for me so in a nutshell i hate myself because of the lack of parenting skills my parents had.

For most of us, the expression “you are your own worst enemy” holds a lot of truth. It’s a painful reality that much of what limits us in our lives is our own feelings of unworthiness and self-hatred. “I hate myself” is a fairly common thought. The point here is not to blame parents. However, it’s important to realize that no parent, or person for that matter, is perfect. Parents face a difficult struggle when they have children, as painful feelings arise from their own past. They may therefore react inappropriately or critically toward their children in moments of stress.

Firstly, I appreciate your courage and bravery in asking this question; it takes strength to seek help and discover the answers within. It sounds like you are feeling frustrated and upset with yourself, which might relate to the past or present circumstances. However, irrespective of that, what has helped you persevere and address this feeling of self-hatred? Would it help for you to remember a time when you had good experiences and felt better? In doing so, perhaps, you will identify the goodness of the experience, how you felt, and how self-hatred might have been nonexistent at the time? Hating oneself is awful and can lead one to believe something they are not. However, discovering self-acceptance and inner strengths can give hope and positive energy. Once the mind becomes settled, then self-reflection becomes helpful and productive in realizing that feelings of frustration, self-hatred are not who you are, but will pass over time. Please take care of yourself and remember those feelings of self-hatred will pass. All the best!

I’ve always felt like the black sheep of my family. Always left out of everything going down the wrong path, and i feel like my family dislikes me for that and it set hate upon myself. I’m currently trying to become my best self . . It’s really hard though, I’ve never had a good childhood and that definitely has an impact on the way i feel about my self . . I’m trying to love my self for once though and i feel like once i get there i will be the best me, and i truly hope it is.

Maybe it's not the fact that you hate yourself but more the situation that you are in, and you blame yourself for the situation. Maybe you feel stuck.. But always try and change the situation and remember that EVERY single person makes mistakes! Forgive yourself and learn from them! Don't stop in one situation and think that "this is what I deserve" make your life better for yourself! Live for you, give your own happiness because if you give people controll on your happiness, you'll come to find that you are rearly happy, choose yourself, love yourself, and be yourself!

you don't hate yourself! your brain is tricking you, playing games all because it dosent know how to handle the emotion. You are perfect in every single way I know its hard to see at this very moment in time but it is true, I promise better days are coming, I myself once hated me I had a hatred so strong for myself it just took over I would constantly bring myself down, look in the mirrior and just cry my eyes out asking myself why why is it like this why can I love myself, anf thats the day that changed my life thats the day I reached out for help. And you can too !!