Why do I hate myself so much?
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Moderated by Danielle Johnson, MSED, Community mental Health Counseling, LMHC
Updated: Jun 15, 2022
KingParisX
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Aug 1, 2018
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I used to hate myself for no reason, I used to think that everyone judged me before getting to know me and honestly I still feel like that sometimes. However I read a post online which spoke about this ‘demon voice’ within you that is actually your critical thinking telling you your not good enough and constantly putting you down.
There’s always help and my doors are open.
specialRiver83
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Aug 9, 2018
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Perhaps someone has manipulated your mind into thinking you are not enough. Often people are down on themselves simply because they know themselves they have great potential and could push themselves harder to do better . That does not make you net less of a person and you should never use the words hate. Hate is a strong word
wonderingsoul212
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Aug 11, 2018
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I hate myself so much because I live with myself. I do lots of thing with myself therefore I know myself more than others. I see what others don't and I set a lot of goals for myself. I demand myself to be excellent and I want to lead a perfect life. That's why.
Anonymous
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Aug 12, 2018
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Then you clearly don’t know yourself! You will learn to love yourself and accept who you are, and begin to look differently
HelloChell0
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Sep 5, 2018
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People tend to hate themselves because of unrealistic expectations. Whether it be to do with grades, work, income, perhaps even social expectations. If you judge yourself and everything you do harshly, you're going to start resenting yourself. Learn to love yourself and understand that expectations are only that, expectations. You should take life as you go and push for what you want rather than doing what you think is 'right' in regards to social constuct and what others are doing with their lives. Just do you and persue what you want to do. Faliure is normal, so when you do - don't beat yourself up over it. Take it as a lesson and learn from it.
Sciamach
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Sep 8, 2018
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only you can say why you hate yourself, but even then, it often is accompanied with a feeling of complete inadequacy. whether out of abuse, peer pressure, or the like, you feel like you're not good enough. you want to please others, but first, you have to please yourself. stop focusing on whether you're good enough! comparing yourself with other people doesn't make for a good time at all, and you need to change your mindset. there's good, and then there's also good. improve yourself and focus on living a happy life, and perhaps at that point will your feelings subside.
Anonymous
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Oct 11, 2018
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This is a question I asked myself quite often and I knew the answer. For me, it was any failure or anything that I was or performed less than perfectly and the accumulation of these faults over the years. I always had an idea of what the perfect version of myself would be in every reimagining of a situation or future daydream, so that was my comparison and I hated that I could not achieve it. That is my insight and I hope it might connect. If you are having these negative feelings about yourself without genuinely knowing the fault, I hope talking more about it can help you discover the direction you can take to become happy.
Anonymous
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Nov 11, 2018
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Because you’re around yourself more than anyone else is. You are the only one with your thoughts and your feelings all the time so naturally is normal to feel...stuck with yourself. It’s reversible though! The first step is to realize that it is human nature to see the worst in ourselves. It is not an accurate reflection of your character or worth. It may sound cheesy, but try writing down every time you discover something you like about yourself so that you become self aware. Therapize yourself. Try to realize when you feel the feelings of hatred and try to find the root of it
Indigochild611
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Nov 24, 2018
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Because we have yet to tap into the beauty, potential and love that we are capable. We are all meant to do something... You just have to self evaluate find out who you are, become your support system ( your own best friend/ therapsit) love yourself, believe in yourself and you will go so far. You have to want to thrive in this life but i promise you that you are capable of it. If you don't have a reason why be your own reason, or let the sky be your reason or a butterfly or a tree or the wind. You will find it. Just don't give up on yourself. You will regret it and everyone will miss you.
Anonymous
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Dec 14, 2018
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When we do something that we are not supposed to do, or a deed that you find unkind, but unfortunately do it, you start feeling bad about your own self. That's called self loathing, when you keep loathing yourself, it turns into hate. Self hate is experienced by all of us at some point in our lives, you need to find the reason behind your hate, and do try to forgive yourself by bringing change to the situation, which bought you this hate.The answer to this question, can only be answered by you. You know yourself better than anyone else, you need to find the answer within yourself, and maybe a little support from a kind human being can be a big help.
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