Why do I hate myself so much?

Everyone has days where they feel as though they are underachieving. It's a natural part of the human life cycle. Maybe there are things you aren't feeling so positively about at the moment? Try and focus on the beautiful things about you. Every day, look in the mirror and say one thing you like about yourself.

Because you don't know that you are a unique in this world. Please think about that and you can find yourself.

I personally find that feeling comes from anxiety over not being accepted by others. If I think I am imperfect and don't meet the standards of others, that they will hate me, and therefore I should hate myself. Sometimes, the feeling comes from my own standards as well. I feel as though I have to live up to my own standards. However, "standards" are a social construct. Every human being is perfect the way they are. Not being smart enough, athletic enough, attractive enough, or anything like that, is all irrelevant. To stop myself from thinking like this, I try to think of good points about myself. Or, ask my friends/family members what they think of me.

It's common for people to think the worst of themselves. You could talk to therapist or a friend OR someone on 7 cups. Maybe it will be helpful.

You haven't learned to love yourself yet. You may have come through some recent bad experiences, these may be colouring how you view yourself. You may also be dealing with issues from your past for which you are unreasonably blaming yourself. Whichever it is, you haven't had the chance, opportunity or inclination to view yourself in a different light. As life goes on it's highly unlikely you will see yourself this way forever. As you grow you may find yourself moving away from these feelings. In the interim you might begin to train yourself to see yourself how others see you, no doubt it is in a far more positive light than you do.

Well, if I hated myself or couldnt stop criticising myslef negatively, it would mean there is a chance that I am really sad or depressed but not necessarily it's that. But still I would consult an expert who will assess my behaviour and determine if it is depression, for being sure. That is if I hate myself for no reason or dont know what the reason is. There can be other reasons too. Often our parents put so much pressure on us for doing well in education and other things, we can really start to blame ourselves once we fail to satisfy our parents and they react badly. This can lead to self-hating and even self harm. Not only pressures from parents, even bullies at school, at times pressure from teachers can lead to it too. Mostly we hate ourselves for failing in things, for getting tempted and regreting later. Yeah, guilt can kill us inside. Mostly when we feel bad and guilty later for something we did and we fail to forgive ourselves, it makes us feel start to hate ourselves and often we think punishing ourself, self-harming will make us feel better. Even suddenly remembering about some things we regret can lead to this. Doesnt matter for what reason we start to hate ourself, we should seek for help right away when we realise what are doing.

Maybe you're comparing yourself with others..or you're expecting more from yourself.. i would say.. that don't compare yourself with others.. be like a flower.. which blooms in its own way.. without being effect by other flowers.. and stop hating yourself for things you are not.. and start loving yourself for what you have.. and if you hate yourself then you couldn't expect any different from others.. so start giving yourself respect and love.. so people would do so too.. :)

You may suffer from depression i recommend reading the 7 cups depression book so you will understand more of what your feeling.

'Cause you think that people hate you and that you can't do nothing. You have to work with your feelings and learn how to love yourself. I know you can do it.

You're very self-aware, and you are so very aware of the norms in your society. You know what is better, yet you don't feel that you've attained that ideal yet. So, you are hard on yourself, when you really need to be understood and sympathized with.