Why do I feel so unappreciated?

Sometimes you feel underappreciated because you may be the kind of person who gives it your all in everything that you do yet no one says a word of thanks. However if it also important to remember that appreciation is shown in different forms depending on the other person. It is sort of like how there are different love languages. One person may show appreciation by compliments and affectionate gestures and words. Another may quietly help you with something that they know you need help with without telling you, or by giving you something that will help you through the day, even if it's simple like making you your favourite drink or doing an errand for you. It may not seem like appreciation because they are doing it without saying "Hey, I am doing this to say thanks", but it is. That said if you truly are just giving and giving and not being appreciated at all, you need let them know because it can be very demoralizing and draining, and you may lose the drive and enthusiasm you have to continue helping out.

Sometime people take you for granted when they are used to you doing things for them. They can even grow to expect it without even realizing it. And sometimes people show appreciation in different ways. If someone isn't good at verbalizing appreciation, they might do sometime nice in return. When you feel under appreciated, it can be helpful to let the other person know and tell them what you need. This can be hard, but I encourage you to try it with a loved one that may be open to feedback. If that doesn't help you may consider doing less for them so you don't start to resent them.

When people around you do not see what you are doing or how hard you are working, it can often come off as they are not appreciating you. This can happen everywhere--school, college or even the workplace. The situation might be different for someone else where the work they do is unrightly attributed to someone else. For me, it was mostly my dependence on external validation before I realised that I don't have to seek it out to strengthen my self esteem or worth; my skills are enough for both. It is never easy to come to this level but with a good support system who give you enough validation to not sink too deep into it, a strong resolve and resources on the internet, anything is possible :)

Learn to take control: How do you take control when feeling unappreciated? Communication is key. Sometimes people are not aware of how you’re feeling, especially if you hide it well. Take that bold step and communicate your feelings in a kind and thoughtful way. Losing your temper won’t contribute anything positive to the conversation, and demanding thanks will hardly ever result in it being given. Gently and sincerely talk with the other person about the way you feel. Allow them the freedom to tell you that they do appreciate you and that their intention was not to make you feel otherwise.

A question all us ask ourselves at some point of our lives but if you study your mindset or thought pattern closely, you would realise you only ask this question when you feel down, emotionally drained, sad or very tired or physically drained. You might feel like a victim, your emotional needs are not met or validated or you yourself could be in playing martyr mindset. So it is always good to spent some time to reflect on, analyse your state on mind before you look outward at people who make you feel unappreciated. When you have reasoned out and identified your own weaknesses you would then find ways to strengthen yourself and look at the external world differently.

We feel appreciated when we do little and it is recognized. And it mainly happens because it is new for us or unexpected. It fires dopamine in our brains and that makes us feel good. So, our brain tries to do the same thing again to experience more dopamine. But with time, things change. Either our efforts become too much (due to dopamine greed), or the appreciation reduces (because the process is routine or repetitive and starts feeling empty) or both or none (means appreciation is still there, but our brain has gotten used to that amount of dopamine and it needs more than before) In either of these cases, our brain makes us feel unappreciated.

often times we help others and expect the same. it feels like giving a piece of us every time we help or do something it makes us feel drained but if people just notice what we did and tell us how we mattered our energy boosts back in. so when we feel that way it often helps to step back take break appreciate ur own work. u might or might not always get what u give but deep down u know what u did is really important and it finds comfort in ur heart. it is important to know that saying no is ok and being little selfish is ok. we are our first priority and we deserve to be appreciated for the good things we do just because one doesnt appreciate doesnt mean it is appreciable work.

Everyone desires recognition when they do a good job, or when they go out of their way to help someone else. Being appreciated isn't the same as 'taking credit' for doing something, but rather it is going that extra mile - especially when you weren't even asked to do it. There are different ways to show appreciation. One way is a raise in salary. An employer will routinely recognize a good worker. Another way and probably the best way (from my perspective) is simply a nice "Thank you!" So often, we fail to recognize hard work, and then, a person might ask, "Why do I even bother!?" Never be willing to go the extra mile .. even if you don't get recognition for it. In your heart, you know you did well and you'll feel better because of it!

Its natural to feel this way. It can lead us to feel unsatisfied and disappointed, also demotivated. Many times I have felt that way in my life as well. However, it is important to understand and value your own self. You could be feeling that people don't realise what you have done, but that doesn't mean what you do, or who you are is not important. Even your smallest effort can have an impact on someone's life, even if they don't acknowledge or appreciate it. Remember that someone's appreciation or the lack thereof cannot take away the importance of your work or of who you are. I find it fruitful when I appreciate and/ or reward myself with something after doing something for someone or myself.

It's common problem many people face these days, we always work to impress someone and seek appreciation from various other people. But we need to change this it always makes us feel unappreciated , to come out of this we need to focus on our work and how to do it better every time and appreciate to self with small gestures like eating chocolate or taking a break or whatever makes you appreciated by yourself. And if you appreciate others for their good work or anything good done by them makes their day and they do start appreciating others so let's make it chain reaction ✌😊