Why do I always think everything I do is wrong?

Sometimes when things happen to our lives and how people treat us, we think something we are doing is wrong. Which isn't the case, I use to think in all my relationships I was some how doing something wrong, but I wasn't. You have to be confident with who you are and how you act and just everything you do. Whatever people respond and act from that will determine if you have. If you did something wrong, you always want to own up to them and apologize if needed and make sure you don't do it again. But if you didn't do anything, you should be fine.

I’ve learned that the most important thing in life is to learn how to sooth myself with a supportive open heart. Holding myself up to impossible standards takes the joy out of life. Even though I’ve been very hard on myself in the past, I am excited by the possibility that each day brings the opportunity to meet life with open arms. I may not have all the answers I need but I’m willing to ask for help and support. I love how when I share my needs with others it allows them to be the supportive person they long to be.

We tend to be our worst critics! Having these thoughts is normal, but it's important to address them. These kinds of thoughts are called thinking traps and tend to be caused by stress or feeling anxious about something. Try and address these traps. It can be hard to flat out avoid them, but be mindful when you start thinking in this all or nothing mindset. When you think "everything" is wrong, you are thinking all-or-nothing. Try to write down your thoughts, and then list out rational responses and refocus how you look at such "wrongdoings." If you are having trouble reworking your thoughts, work through it with a friend or a listener, a third party can help you rationalize.

It's because our ego forces us to over identify with negatives. It's simply a negativity bias. I can guarantee you do lots of things right (if you think about it) however you will often overlook those things. It's a human survival instinct to focus on negatives. After all that is how we tend to learn. We learn from our mistakes. But in today's world most people don't need that primal instinct as much. We live in an age that is far better than any time before and yet our instinct still drives us to dwell on or find negatives to focus on. Don't let that get you down though. You can retrain your thinking, thanks to the human brain having amazing plasticity. First help yourself be more aware of the positives and second, reframe the negatives as positives.

maybe it depends on your socialisation and parents influence on your expectations of yourself. if you are very severe with yourself and evaluate to much, then it could happen your inner thoughts tell you: " you fullfill not your goals". the words "always" and "everything" are not very usefull to describe your behavior. better looking for conrete actions or positive exceptions. there is also a kindful advise to learn from your mistakes. dont be ashamed to make some, it is naturally -especially if you are brave enough to leave your comfort zone and risk something. so dont look to strict on your actions:)

I'd say, that it is usually because you are used to others telling you you did something wrong and/or nobody/very rarley someone told you they were proud, that you did something good. So you might not even realize, that it actually was good, because nobody said it. It could also be because you were manipulated by someone in the past. Manipualtion is a very big topic and to make it short for this answer, the manipulator made you feel like you did something wrong, for a reason you don't know, but it definitely brings them good if you think that (for example they might be trying to convince you to stay with them, because you need them, when the truth is, you don't, you might be even better than they are). When you become a victim of a good manipulator (it will be hard to recognize them, especially at first, and it's hard to leave them, as it is often too late when we realize the truth), it can leave huge consequences on you forever.

I would like to start by saying I am sorry you feel this way about yourself. It is not your fault and it can change if you want it to. This change will likely be challenging and it will require some work and some time. A lot of how we feel about ourselves comes from the way we were treated when we were younger, children look to adults to tell them if they are good or not as children have not learnt how to do that for themselves yet. If the adult is telling the child you are wrong and this happens over and over we learn that we are wrong and unacceptable in some way. We carry this to adulthood as it seems correct. Actually usually that adult was wrong for not taking the time to teach the child and for not being accepting. We often learn by making mistakes. Try to be kind to yourself, reflect on this and see if it true, can you then show yourself some kindness and allow yourself to be right? I know that is hard but it's unlikely you are wrong all of the time.

I don't know about you, but I personally feel like everything I do is wrong because of my self doubt stemming from knowing perception is flawed. I constantly tell myself that "this could be wrong," "you don't know what you are doing," "you only think you know," etc. I personally have not been able to get rid of these thoughts at all, but I hear meditation can help some people get their thoughts in order. If closing your eyes does not work for you personally, some people stare at a fire to clear their heads, and then go through their thoughts and see if they are actually rational. Hopefully you find what works for you.

You may have been accused of being bad at something countless times. Sometimes, people tend to take it to heart and let themselves down which is what is happening to you. It's completely normal if you have been let down multiple times in the past; especially if you care about them. Stress, anxiety, lack of sleep and too much screen time can also be some causes leading to these trail of thoughts. Why? It's because our minds and bodies function best when we have enough sleep. Lack of sleep is basically the base. If you get enough sleep, stress and anxiety levels are reduced and you feel better about yourself. We tend to rely on our devices a lot more than we should which makes us stay up at night and lose sleep. These are thoughts you may have due to the reasons stated above.

Being a devout Christian, I can relate this very easily. It’s so easy for me to feel like everything I do is a sin, and that God is mad at me and doesn’t want to talk to me. But the truth is, life is life. In life, you make mistakes. You’re human. You’re not perfect. No one is. And that’s okay. It’s honestly part of what makes life so beautiful. Because think about it, without mistakes we wouldn’t have mercy; without tears we wouldn’t have compassion; without pain we wouldn’t have healing. Life is a beautiful gift, and there’s nothing wrong with enjoying its increíble offers.