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why do i always push people away and block them out?

Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Apr 5, 2015
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It could be a type of defense mechanism. I do that often, too. And it's how I deal with what's going on around me. I don't want to get hurt, so I push people away. It may have to do with family, too. Maybe you once have been hurt by someone that you care about and you don't want that to happen again.
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Profile: heavenlySun21
heavenlySun21 on Apr 26, 2015
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I would say that you can't really ask anyone else about that. You may want to examine how your past was. question the traumatic events or hurtful things you experienced? what were your parents like?
Profile: FriendlyAdviser
FriendlyAdviser on Aug 4, 2015
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It can be hard for some people to socially accept others, one of the reasons can be social anxiety. If you feel uncomfortable with people a lot you should consult a professional and get to know more about your condition.
Profile: blackrabbit
blackrabbit on Jan 12, 2016
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It's a self defense mechanism which you probably heard of. When other's behavior becomes confusing, hurting or unpredictable, pushing people away is the best way to take control. However in most cases, that is not the best solution. We are pack animals and eventually we'll need other people in our life. Pushing people away won't give us the chance to practice give and take and so when we do let people in, we might end up hurting them or getting hurt because lacking skills in communication.
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Anonymous on Mar 7, 2017
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Sometimes, you may just push them away to try to keep them away from you. You never mean to, but you always try to help them as much as you can :)
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Anonymous on Mar 6, 2017
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Well ask yourself have you every been hurt in the past? Maybe someone has broken your trust etc, I have the same, when I get close to someone I automatically push them away abit because I'm afraid the same will happen again. Or maybe if you prefer to establish a 100% trust foundation in the beginning.
Profile: Efini06
Efini06 on Aug 5, 2019
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Feeling as though we’re lacking in energy can be tough when we’re alone. We have to be careful when managing what little energy we have, so that we don’t completely exhaust ourselves. Having no energy when we’re around others can be even worse. People can tell us that they want to be around us until they’re blue in the face. But we won’t necessarily believe it. Depression makes us feel worthless and useless.We are aware that we aren’t ourselves, we feel gobbled up by depression and socialising can feel awkward. We might not be showering as much as we ordinarily would, we might not have run a brush through our hair in a while, and we may only really feel comfortable in our pyjamas. We’ve put the people we love on a pedestal and we often feel as though we’re not enough for them. We also understand how painful that can be for our loved ones
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Anonymous on Jan 9, 2020
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I push people away because I fear being a disappointment to others. It is easier to distance myself from people than to be a burden to them with my problems. If I push people away than I can't disappoint anyone. Pushing people away is a defence mechanism for me to avoid having hard conversations with anyone due to the fear of being judged. The less people in my life the easier it is to pretend I don't have anything wrong with me because no cares enough about me to figure it or help me because I am scared that they will reject me because I am not normal or only acting this way to gain sympathy for others.
Profile: zaix
zaix on Feb 15, 2015
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When some people feel alone and/or sad, sometimes they don't want to talk about that kind of think with others and it's normal so.
Profile: ComplexEmotions
ComplexEmotions on Nov 23, 2015
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To answer this question you should do the opposite. Accept a few people as they are and get close to them and open yourself to them. Try this a couple of times and you'll know. :)
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