Why do depressed people push loved ones away?

Being someone who has experienced depression myself, we tend to push people away because our depression makes us feel like a burden, so it's not so much us pushing people away because deep down we want you there, we don't want to be alone, but it's more that we pull away from our loved ones because we don't want them to worry about us, we don't want them to have to deal with the weight of depression on top of their already busy lives. In the end it isn't logical in any way but that's how we feel.

Depression stems from a variety of things. In my experience, my depression derived from always being alone or feeling neglected by those I graved attention from. I was one man standing alone. Being in the house with no siblings or nobody to call that truly understands what I'm going through drove me to insanity. Sometimes I don't even feel like talking, because you feel they don't care.When you're alone that's when, the mind has a way of turning you against your own self. If you're constantly alone, that's when your mind and the devil himself, plays tricks on you. Talking to people, especially the ones that are the closest to you seems like the hardest thing to do. Even iuf you know your hurting them, you care but there is something , for me it was negative energy that stopped me from simply just talking and having a good convo. Having real fun and finding real happiness seems impossible, especially because you don't try sometimes. You dwell mostly in sadness and loneliness because that's all you know. Feeling unworthy is another problem. It also makes you paranoid, you become confused, your overthinking sometimes feel true, and it changes your view on certain things you see and hear .Depression is no joke, whatever your faith is seek God, build yourself , talk to someone and never give up on finding and completing who you are. Don't allow this to destroy any relationships, especially with the ones that truly loves you, because when they get tired of the things you do and finally turn their back, you will feel the harshest blow.

Because they feel they don't deserve their love, they even hate themselves, and they feel that no one could help them. The feeling of despair is so deep, they can't feel the love of others anymore, they are so lonely.

Hi my fiance of 12 years is suffering anxiety and severe depression. He has up amd left me and our 2 kids and says he wint be back 😢 he is in a new relationship already within 2 weeks after leaving! He was on medication and now he isnt and wont seek help. Why is he refusing anything i try and suggest to him am so confused

Because when you are depressed you are hurt inside and when you hurt you tend to hurt the ones around you and most of the time the people you spend the most time with like your love ones will be the ones that you hurt the most.

Basically, they're scared. They don't dare to show it out to others about how they really feel. I myself was depressed. I pushed them away because I knew that nobody liked negativity, and it's always this negativity that is the origin of all the problems that comes with it. We're scared of showing others the true and raw self, the side that we have kept for who knew how long. If we don't push them away, we feel exposed. And a lot of times, the loved ones just can't understand what we are thinking, giving (let's just be honest) useless innocent advises, wishing that we'd just suddenly go back to being happy. A lot of times, they just don't understand how depression really is like. Many thinks that it can just go away suddenly like having a cold. And it often frustrates them when they realize that they're of no help for you as you're fighting against such a tough war. For us depressed people, we will then feel bad that we're passing this negativity to others, "destroying" the innocence and purity. It makes us feel bad that we're the ones being different. Looking at others who are able to just love so easily, it makes us feel that we're different, more like weird. We see a border separating us and the loved ones, where we both live very different lives, think very different things, and has very different personalities. We push loved ones away, because we don't want to see any of these happening. We're just trying to prevent anything worse to happen, although sometimes, by doing this, we're just making it worse.

It's not particularly that they mean to push people away it's more that they are going through a lot in they're lives and they may not particularly know how to speak to someone or they might not know how to explain how they are feeling to the people they care about.

There have been times in my life when trauma from my past has seemed to be more bothersome than other times. Sometimes I will go for months without ever consciously thinking about my trauma. But at these times when I am more aware of the past pain, I can sometimes feel shame. Shame will often move a person to silence, for fear of being judged. Of course in that silence we can become very vulnerable to depression. Shame breeds fear, fear (of judgment) leads to silence, silence can drag us into hopelessness. BUT,... a single brave word, shared with a trusted listener can reboot our perspective. Just reach out, speak out, come out of the dark lies of shame.

Depressed people are trying to organize their own thoughts and that they don't want their loved ones to get involved with their problems. (that is one reason). It could also mean that the individual is trying to distant themselves away from others so that they don't have to deal with the interaction with others while they are dealing with such issues.

I think that someone who is depressed pushes people away because they are not stable enough to be able to handle themselves, let alone another person.