Why do depressed people push loved ones away?

Sometimes people suffering from depression feel their family or friends can't understand them or try to protect them from "blaming themselves". As a result it can mean that, instead of engaging with those they love most, people end up pushing them away. If they feel ready, talking to someone impartial can help as they don't feel they have to explain or justify themselves

Out of guilt and shame. You don't want to burden your loved ones with your troubles, so it's easier to push them away than expend the energy to tell them how you feel. It can be quite a daunting task to even begin to try and explain what you are feeling inside - not least because half the time you don't know what you're feeling and why you're feeling the way you do. You also do not want your loved ones to see you at your darkest times, I think subconsciously you want them to retain a positive image of you in their head.

Depressed people tend to push loved one away because we're afraid of hurting the ones who we loved, as this is what i experienced before. I used to think that the people who i loved did not understand me. So this caused me to think that my problems will burden them. However it's not what i had in mind, the people who truly love me will not mind me to share my problem with them and solve it together.

Because they dont want them to see how it is to break down

because sometimes people like they need to be alone with their thoughts so they forget about the depression but that is even worse. they tend to think that they will hurt someone close and they are afraid of being a failure. the loved ones should be there for this person and never let them down. one day everything would be okay again.

Because when dogs go to die, they just go off into the woods never to be seen again. Depression can feel as if you are going to die.

i have depression and i do this alot, itsbecause we dont want to hurt you, we dont want you to know what is inside out heads as its not pleasant, and if you only knew some of the thoughts you would get hurt, and they would blame themselves if they saw you like that and it would make them worse, they know that you are there for them but its horrible emotional pain they dont want you to have, so they think they are protectingyou by pushing you away

They feel as though they are not good for them, as if they will hurt them by being near them. They don't want them to see them as weak or to see them fall apart.

Because depressed people think that they want to be alone. They want that everybody is happy and they feel like they are charging somebody with their problems

Because they don't want their loved ones to carry their burden, like they must. They care for others, but not for themselves.