Why do depressed people push loved ones away?

Well, depression people used to pushed people they love away cause, most of the time they will felt themselves worthless and can't make people they love happy so they used to afraid of being burden to them and they was afraid od hurting people they love to the depression and the negative thinking that used to be in their mind like a poison, but honestly they doesn't want to hurt you but they pushed you away usually they will think that your life will be better without them as they afraid of hurting you emotionally. They prefer they are the only one who get hurt other than make people they love hurt too. Actually they tried to protect people they love's feeling but maybe in a wrong way. Well it is not surprising cause they got much more negative thoughts and thinking more than you know they are. Tbh, they need support and people to lead them to positive thinking and manners but most of people around then doesn't aware of it. And they prefer thinking that the depression people is fine but deep inside them, they aren't fine totally. But most of the time, depression people used to hide their emotions and what they feel so that it won't make people around them worry. But actually, to all of people out there, please be aware if someone were depressed cause I'm afraid it will get worsen till they might be having a suicidal thoughts.

being depressed i feel like i cause a lot of problems to everyone around me. especially my loved ones. i want them to be happy. and if i make them feel sad or stressed the quickest solution i can think of is to push them away. a lot of people may think i hate them but the truth is i love them so much i rather sacrifice myself in a way to make them feel better if i cause them so much stress... i dont know if this makes any sense. i hope it does. but basically. we push them away so we wont hurt them...

Sometimes you feel like your heavy feelings will be a burden on other people, especially when they're struggling with their own stresses and challenges. Sometimes it's hard to put into words exactly what you're feeling without judging your thoughts, that they're just excuses, that people won't understand, that I can get through it on my own. Sometimes I didn't value myself enough to see that people did care, that people DO care, that it's ok to be vulnerable. That it's ok to be open. And today I struggle with that. Knowing my partner needs my support as he deals with struggles in his family, with his health, and with me. I know what I need to do, but at times I don't matter enough to do it - my family needs to be the priority, not me. And it's hard. Because I do matter. Because I need to look after me, too. And I can't look after them if I'm not looking after me.

They probably think that you're not helping or cannot help. They may realize that it hurts the person trying to help, but if a person is depressed and their friends really cannot help, they need to look elsewhere and worry about themselves first and foremost.

People who are depressed feel like everyone wants them to change or just don't understand. Some feel it's best to be alone with their thoughts.

Sometimes when you're depressed, you feel lonely and that feeling causes you to push others away when they want to help. You may not know you're doing it until a loved one says something.

Because they don't want others to "deal with the same problems". Mostly arises from wanting to keep others safe and suffer themselves. Logic.

Depression amplifies every negative thought and emotion. Those with depression feel that they are undeserving of love and affection. They dwell in oppressive isolation, thinking that this is what the world has chosen for them. Also, they hate to be a burden to anyone else. They hate themselves and think they are beyond saving. Therefore, they don't want to waste anyone else's time. They prefer to suffer alone and undisturbed.

For the most part, it's our brain telling us that a) we're hurting you and you don't deserve it so we should stay away from you or b) we don't deserve to be loved and you're lying to us about it, which is making us angry. It's really not your fault, unless you're being abusive towards us or we feel like you don't understand.

They don't think they can give love to them as they are not finding it within. They think they are not enough to love anybody and afraid they won't get the love back they deserve in return