Why do depressed people push loved ones away?
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Moderated by Smita Joshi, BA Psychology / MA / Advanced EFT Practitioner
Updated: Jul 12, 2024
lennie
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Nov 25, 2014
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I think a depressed person does that Because they love them , and don't feel they are worthy or don't want to "drag them down too"
YourFutureBestFriend
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Oct 22, 2015
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It's just their feelings that make them want to be shut out and alone. Just let them be sad for a while, but when they're done, they'll probably go back to you! :)
sereneSunshine20
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Feb 5, 2016
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It is human nature to want to be strong for those you love, when you hurt inside, you don't want those you love to feel like it is their fault, or they are to blame. It is easier, at the time, to remove people you care about
Anonymous
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Feb 10, 2016
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because they think they can harm or hurt them or they maybe disappointing them or they think before they leave us why not leave them first or they think they dont care or cant understand them
zhrahmed297
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Mar 25, 2016
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Because they want their personal space clear, so they can have more thinking and cooling time to themselves.
Anonymous
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Jun 5, 2016
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Because they feel like a burden. Also.well-meaning loved ones sometimes make it harder because they don't truly understand what the depressed person ins experiencing. Just stick by the person, let them know you're there - and then let them be.
Anonymous
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Sep 25, 2015
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One of the things depression does is make the person apathetic. This makes them push away people they love or people who love them
Anonymous
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Jan 2, 2016
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Depressions is a dark place where few things make sense. There are voices in your head telling you things you know aren't true but they don't stop. Caring becomes too difficult. You're expected to explain things to the people that are about you and explaining something you don't understand is harder than pushing people away. There is also the fear that these people might judge you and brush away your concerns and that, in itself, is scarier than any other thought.
AmityAllecra19
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Jan 6, 2016
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Usually because we feel like we are a burden. Its always painful to see everyone around you being so happy and lively, like everything is in color yet when it comes to you everything is suddenly gray and bleak. Its worse when you realize your loved sometimes have to act like they are walking on egg shells around you and you think start to "maybe if I distanced myself they wouldn't get hurt, they can live their lives without any burden from me". In a depressive mindset we think its the best decision but we aren't seeing the full picture, we aren't seeing that the reality is we're hurting them as much as ourselves
DemetriaJade
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Jan 10, 2016
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We might feel as though this is a one person battle, and do not want to put any of it onto loved ones.
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