Why can't I stop obsessing about the negative in my life and instead focus on the positive?

It's a hard thing to do, putting yourself first. You will find that this is one of the hardest things to do on your own, you always feel like something is going to drag you down. When you find something that makes you happy you will find that these negative emotions will slowly disappear .

Often we can't stop thinking about situations that went wrong. This keeps on going in our mind until we find closure. Instead of focusing on the positive things around we keep going back to that negative situation.

You are either not open for improvements of your life or you are just escaping from reality. You need to open your mind and let the positive thoughts enter. You just need something or someone to let you realize that there are more things that is there for you for you to feel happy about. Acknowledge your capabilities and uniqueness from other people and appreciate it.

It's just a matter of perspective. When you see the world in a different angle, in a more positive way, you become positive. Your own happiness is just based on you :)

If you're feelinb negative, you're prone to see negatives in your life. Its hard to pull yourself out of that to see positives. But once you allow yourself to see the positives, you'll see the domino effect of the other positives too.

Our brains have what is called a "negativity bias". Basically, negative things cause a stronger reaction in our brains than positive things do. This is normal, don't worry. I've found that focusing on the positives of a negative situation helps a lot. Every experience we think of as a negative experience causes (or is caused by) at least one positive thing. Sometimes you just have to try harder to find the positives, but they're there. Good luck! :)

It's hard not to think about the negative because it's obviously something that is bugging you. It's hard but it takes some time and practice. When you are thinking negative try to think of something positive that will come out of it.

Its easy to see the negative in our lives as it reflects our feelings of self worth during our low periods. Focusing on the positive takes alot of effort to maintain but can so easily be crushed, pushing us back into the negative where there is no effort required.

Sometimes we seek out the bad only beacause we have become so accostumed to the negative parts. Whenever life goes well, we apprehensively await the day that things will go bad again.

Negative thoughts tend to ruminate much easier in our minds than positive ones. It takes an active effort to focus on the positive. Gratitude lists are a good start.