Why can't I make friends without constantly feeling like I just annoy them?

Feeling that you're too annoying to have friends could be all in your own head. Sometimes, you feel like you're annoying when you talk a lot And the other person doesn't seem as interested. I strive to be as un-annoying as possible. I think that many people strive for the same. Needless to say, most of us want to be liked. The most important rule is: never think of yourself as annoying because that subconsciously creates tension. Try to make your sentences as short and brief as possible, but talk more to those who actually seem to care. Listening more and talking less is a great skill too.

From my experience, that used to stem from feeling like I was inadequate, or wasting their time. I used to feel like I was more of an irritation than their friend. For me, this took considering what being a friend meant. Friends are friends because there is an equal give and take, usually- there is an investment in each other's lives. And meeting people, and meeting people who like what you like, is a very affirming experience. For those of you who are shy, I would recommend going to fan clubs or meetings about hobbies. For example, I'm trying to get more involved in my church community- and they run a bake sale twice a year. I'm going to go help them out tomorrow- since baking is one of my favorite hobbies. A lot of this feeling also resides in confidence, too- being anxious or afraid that you're an agitation to others because you may not feel very confident in yourself.

Finding friends, true friends is not always that simple. Some people can accept you for who you really are, others cannot. Most important is to be yourself, don't hide or pretend, speak your mind, stand up for your opinion and stick with it... people will notice if you are changing your mind too often. The feeling of being annoying come if you are too pushy, give them space and take your time, don't rush things. Friendships as well as relationships take time, get to know the person step by step only then you will truly know them and they will truly know you and either it works out or it doesn't. Just don't give up, there are always people with the same views and interests as you have but to find them, you have to share your passion and ideas.

It is completely normal to feel like you are annoying them. If you think you are annoying them, try to relax and make conversation in a casual way. If they are proper friends, I am sure they would tell you when you are being too... talkative.

You are so valuable. Each and every individual has a purpose and deserves to be heard and acknowledged. Are you not feeling very valued in your friendship? Perhaps the group of friends you are talking to may not be the most positive group of friends. Perhaps consider finding yourself a group of friends with a common interest and try going from there. You will make friends. Sometimes it just takes meeting the right type of friend to really make a friendship spark into something worthwhile. And as I said before, you deserve to feel valued. Surround yourself with people who make you feel that way.

Lots of people feel this way. When dealing with other people and their friendships, everyone feels like if they slip up, their friends will ditch them. This could be true for some friendships, but others, no, they have strong friendships. Even the best of friends annoy each other sometimes. Some people feel as though they are more annoying than other friends. Really, everyone is annoying in some way, whether they like it or not. In summary, making friends is hard, but you are not annoying. You may feel like it, but really, they probably like you. So good luck with making friends, it's easier than you think!