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Why can't I make friends without constantly feeling like I just annoy them?

Profile: Mikisaywhat3738
Mikisaywhat3738 on Mar 4, 2015
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I know exactly how you feel and i believe that it all comes back to self esteem. Remember how you have to love yourself before you can love anyone else? Well, working on your self love and acceptance will lead you to feel that you deserve to be appreciated as a person. You won't feel like a nuisance and if it does happen that they make you feel annoying then they don't deserve your time. you move on :). I hope that helps
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Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Aug 22, 2016
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Personally, you feeling like you are annoying people "constantly" is all in your head. Try to relax and enjoy life! If you were really annoying someone they will tell you. Also, maybe you shouldn't hang around people who make you feel annoying. This is certainly something to think about...
Profile: HelpHasArrived
HelpHasArrived on Jun 14, 2015
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You can make friends. You're not annoying people by wanting to do things with them or just hang out or talk to them. That's what people love. All people love when they have others to communicate with and spend their time with. Don't ever feel like you are being annoying because you are not, if your friends would tell you. And the fact that you constantly feel this way makes me feel your like me and that no one has called you annoying but you are afraid to be annoying. But you are not. You are a human being that deserves respect love and communication just like every other human alive. Don't deny yourself this just because you feel you are being annoying. Chances are you aren't annoying anyone. People live to communicate with others how can that annoy anyone. Good luck,my friend.
Profile: TheDude83
TheDude83 on May 11, 2015
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Finding friends, true friends is not always that simple. Some people can accept you for who you really are, others cannot. Most important is to be yourself, don't hide or pretend, speak your mind, stand up for your opinion and stick with it... people will notice if you are changing your mind too often. The feeling of being annoying come if you are too pushy, give them space and take your time, don't rush things. Friendships as well as relationships take time, get to know the person step by step only then you will truly know them and they will truly know you and either it works out or it doesn't. Just don't give up, there are always people with the same views and interests as you have but to find them, you have to share your passion and ideas.
Profile: lizzle
lizzle on Nov 30, 2015
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You might be hypersensitive and thinking that you are annoying your friends by being yourself, if you genuinely are annoying them and you're not trying to be someone, you're actually being who you are, then it is time to find new friends, as adapting constantly to feeling like you're not annoying people being true to yourself then they aren't that great of friends. There is friends for everyone and you are not alone. Have they actually said that you're annoying? if they haven't, then you could just be self critical of your behaviour and your identity, and you need to stop over thinking re-evaluate your position on the subject.
Profile: FeatherForever654
FeatherForever654 on Jun 23, 2015
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Because you're not confident enough with who you are. Love yourself and be happy with who you are. The sooner you love yourself, the faster people will love you. Ask your friends to stop you whenever they feel like you're annoying them. Tell them to help you out. You're simply insecure.
Profile: GuillermoDavid93
GuillermoDavid93 on Jan 26, 2016
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Maybe that feel is like a barrier that you put between yourself and other people, like a way to keep you "safe" of being exposed. It would be great that you can socialize relaxed, allowing you to be yourself, to enjoy friendship, knowing that if you annoy your friends they'll tell you (that's why they are you're friends, it's that kind of confidence what make friendship strong).- sorry about my english.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jun 18, 2018
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I know that feeling. But what I try to remind myself of is that no one is forcing them to stay and talk with me. If they were annoyed they could just leave. Staying is their personal decision, so if they decide to stay they can't be all that annoyed
Profile: KatieSoul
KatieSoul on Sep 19, 2016
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Sometimes we struggle with making friends if we aren't friends with ourselves first. Once we begin to love ourselves and be our own best friend, people are naturally drawn to our confidence and positivity! Let's start making friends of ourselves. We can be our own best company! #LoveYourself #YouArePerfect
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Mar 4, 2015
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When people feel like this when making new friends or talking to other people who have been friends for a long time is mainly caused my General Anxiety which is very common in most people which evolves mainly around talking to others or being around other people. A way you could ease this from happening when making a new friend is to ask them questions and watch how they answer, see how interested they look when thinking about their answer and how they say their answer. Using this method will show you who should be your new friend and who shouldn't.
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