Is it normal to not want to get better?
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Updated: Feb 19, 2023
Anonymous
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Jul 30, 2016
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You could be depressed, depressed makes us down and to lazy to be bothering with improving ourselves.
Anonymous
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Jul 30, 2016
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There are many people out there who doesnt want to get better, because seeking help seems impossible because they are scared, ashamed etc.
Anonymous
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Aug 3, 2016
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this is common. I understand but I personally recommend seeking professional help. you might not want to but once you've done it you will feel relived
Anonymous
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Aug 4, 2016
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Maybe it's about your situation.If you get more attention now,you won't want to turn back.I understand this.
hopefulHand19
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Aug 4, 2016
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It is totally normal not to want to get better. Personally, I didnt want to get better, because i was so scared of putting effort into something, and having the outcome backfire at me. With lots of help, I was able to push through this, and although it was a really rough journey of ups and downs, I got better, and I am so thankful for everyone who helped. Its worth it.
PeacockBlue
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Aug 6, 2016
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Yes, yes it is normal. It's a part of yourself procrastinating on the future, liking or rather being comfortable with where things are in the present and fearing what may come if too much changes in the future.
You've become adjusted to who you are as a person right now, you know how to face your current problems and getting better means these problems will be replaced by new ones you know nothing about. Because of course, there will always be some problem.
You're also happy with the empathy you can feel right now, when you aren't better and you're afraid of who you might become if you did get better. It's like the fear of failing, just rather the fear of success.
You're afraid that if you wish to get better then it might never even happen. So no expectations means no disappointment.
You're happy with having an excuse to be cared and comforted for. For not doing your best at work because you aren't at your best.
So yes, not wanting to get better can sometimes also be half the reason why aren't getting better
pinksunset
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Aug 10, 2016
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Yes, it's very common. If you've been living a certain way for a significant amount of time it's easy to get comfortable living that way, no matter whether it is good or bad for you. Alot of behaviours are maladaptive so become difficult to change, we get used to certain things and getting better can seem scary or not worth it because our way of thinking has, in a sense, adapted to the unhealthy ways we've been living.
AnArtLover
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Aug 11, 2016
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It is very normal. Sometimes it seems not getting better is easier, or that you've been sad (or any other emotion) for too long. I've personally felt this way too. Talking to people who've felt the same way can help you realize you are not alone.
AngelFace97
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Aug 11, 2016
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Although it is sad, I do believe that it is normal, in some ways, not to want to get better. The main reason for this is when things have been so bad/negative for so long, we feel that it is a normal part of life and have grown accustomed to it. We forget that things may change for the better one day and don't realise this ourselves.
loveistheanswer11
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Aug 12, 2016
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The idea of change often feels frightening, especially when change will require work that feels invasive and requires new habits, vulnerability and discipline. "Getting better" requires looking deeply at what is working and what is not for us. It's definately normal to experience the desire to avoid the process of transformation. It's unknown but when someone chooses the path of progress and the momentum and changes start to take form it becomes exciting and empowering.
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