Is it normal to not want to get better?
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Moderated by Smita Joshi, BA Psychology / MA / Advanced EFT Practitioner
Updated: Feb 19, 2023
NumberEleven
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Jul 15, 2016
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For a time it is, because sometimes you can't see what goes beyond what you're going through, that's perfectly normal though.
Jenni42
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Jul 17, 2016
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Yes, many people feel this way. It's due to your current state feeling normal and predictable. You don't know what to expect if it changes and don't really want to take the risk.
TheGavin
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Jul 20, 2016
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Yes, when it comes to feeling as if there is no better. You are under that illusion.
What is a better you? only you can answer that. The sooner you realize that the better you is closer then you think. The soon you will want to get their :)
MsYani
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Jul 22, 2016
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Yes, it is a normal FEELING to not want to get better. Depending on the situation (everyone's situation is different) a person may fee like they need to give up or they feel there is no solution. Why do we feel this way? Because we are INSIDE our problem. We feel like we are drowning even deeper when we try to climb our of our situation.
A good reminder for this: Once we've hit rock bottom, the only way is up. and its always easier falling then getting back up. But the battle is worth it!
("You'll be okay" by A Great Big World; Listen as you reflect your new goals in life to get better!!)
michelle2000
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Jul 24, 2016
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I wouldn't say it's normal to not want to get better, but I would definitely say that it's normal to not want to ask for help to get better. Of course, it depends on what you are struggling with. If, for example, you struggle with Anorexia, then I can see why you wouldn't want to get better because that would involve gaining weight to become healthy. But, say, if you had depression, it would be strange if you didn't want to get better and be happy again. Like I said, it depends on your condition.
uniqueMango45
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Jul 27, 2016
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If you have mental health problems, yes. In my personal experience it's a terrible nightmare where you're miserable but don't want to improve because you're used to and romanticize the bad feelings.
Gracey
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Jul 28, 2016
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For someone who has been unwell for a long period of time, it can be scary to think about getting better. I suppose there is no such thing as normal, maybe you should try and talk this over with a listener and explore the reasons why you don't want to get better :)
ItsAlyssa
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Jul 28, 2016
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Well it doesn't seem normal to me but you should get help because who wouldn't want to get better.i hope things go great
Anonymous
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Jul 29, 2016
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Yeah, sometimes we see ourselves defined by depression, ocd, anxiety, etc.. We then start thinking "if I'm not depressed, what am I?". Other times self-pity (in some cases not all) can also be indulgent.
alwaysafriend4u
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Jul 30, 2016
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it is normal not to want to get better. for what is "better"?
"better" is a subjective observation. what you see as better is not necessarily what the suffering person see as better. we must assume we do not know all the pertinent information concerning one person.
for a person is a world in itself.
sometimes a person developed a complicated ,self restricting strategies ,that integrate the suffering into his life, in a never ending cycle. that is his way of coping.(in his eye-mind) .
after all,sometimes, a person is his self worst enemy.
if that person has strong self will, he is sure he knows what he is doing - then what? - the willing to get better must come from within that person.
if that person did it for too long, until suffering/ faulty thinking become an integrated part of himself. that is the only way he knows. then what?
a person is a world in itself.
let him be.
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