Is it normal to not want to get better?

Yes, it's normal to not want to get better. Sometimes you feel down for so long that you fear that when you get better you won't know who you are anymore since it's been a part of you for all that time, or that you will always be waiting for the day that things get bad again. Personally whenever I experience good moods I spend the whole time feeling scared and anxious about when the next bad mood will hit me, which makes me not want to get better sometimes because it just means that I will crash again which hurts more than always living in the crash.

Yes. If you are feeling depressed that could be a normal reaction. Sometimes we have bad days or bad weeks or even bad years and it's hard for us to get over all we are going through. If you find yourself feeling this way try to reach out and talk to someone. Whether that be a friend, coworker or family or doctor. Talking to someone will help you open up about how you feel and want to step in the right direction to get better. You may even need to be put on some antidepressants to help you feel better and that is ok too.

It could happen . Some people seem to get more attention or leeway when they are in a low place. Some people don't know they can get better so they don't try. Some people want to get better without doing the work like they perceive others who are better. Some people want to have closeness in the form of a toxic dynamic because they dont know there is another way for them. Some people want others to fight for them to get better before they get better because getting better without someone who needs you and supports you is more difficult and seemingly pointless. Some people believe if they got better it would teach people around them that it is not a big deal to mistreat them. Some people believe if they got better they would be expected to do way too much work and have way to much responsibily for their situation even if they are better.

Sometimes we get in a place where the "not well" feels safe and familiar, and thinking about change and work to "get better" feels scary and overwhelming. It's natural want to stay where you feel safe. The unknown and change can be very intimidating! Taking that first step to go down the "get better" path is one of the toughest you'll make, but as you take that first one, then the next, then the next, you'll find it gets easier. And you may still fall back into that place of familiarity, but it won't feel the same, and you'll want to take those forward steps again. And it gets easier as time goes by. Looking after you is so important - no one can do it for you.

It's very normal. Your pain is what your brain is used to; As the human brain can be naturally resilient to change, it's natural that it would resist recovery because recovery would be a big change in your life. Not wanting to get better is an unhealthy thought process, of course, but it is normal and it doesn't make you a bad person and it doesn't invalidate your experiences. When I was struggling with self harm, I found that I'd miss it whenever I wasn't doing it. When the wounds healed up I felt annoyed that my arms were clear. It's a very hard mentality to break, but anything is achievable if you put your mind to it.

I think when you're in that place for a long time, you start to get used to feeling that way. You might not know anymore how it feels like, when it's getting better. Maybe you're waiting for something like your deepest low to have a reason to either get better or be lost. I feel like I'm floating a lot of times. It's like I feel not good on a regular basis anymore, but I'm not feeling extremly depressed or something. It's a numbness that I sometimes can't shake off. And that numbness feels like not caring. I become detached from my own feelings, normalizing being numb, and that's not really okay, but it feels like it's not... THAT BAD. Also I think, not wanting to get better is a way of being afraid of change. Because happiness can feel like a fleeting thing sometimes and what if it wasn't worth being happy for some days and being miserable afterwards again?

I feel like it is absolutely normal to not want to get better, especially when getting better is more unknown and uncertain than staying where you are. So getting better requires a conscious choice and conscious effort because it is in a way stepping outside of your comfort zone and exploring what is unfamiliar. It is not going to be easy but it will definitely be worth it and it can be helpful for when you are feeling discouraged and uncertain about getting better, to create a list of reasons why you want to get better, to remind you of them when it isn't as easy to remember them yourself.

It is completely normal to feel like you don’t want to get better. Often, negative and disordered mindsets, as toxic and destructive as they might be, provide a feeling of comfort and routine, while everything else seems uncertain and unknown. Some feel that getting rid of the bad mindsets will result in emptiness in their life, since they haven’t known anything else, they haven’t known life without a mental disorder for so long and can’t remember what it feels like or simply don’t know what to expect. It’s often difficult to believe that the disordered thoughts will be replaced by ‘normal’ thoughts, instead of simply being destroyed, leaving emptiness in one’s thoughts and life. If you feel that way, you’re definitely not the only one and it’s completely normal! Getting your thoughts under control definitely is a lot of work, but it is definitely worth it and there’s way more to life than your disorder(s). I hope this helped! :)

This might seem like a frustrating place to be in, but it does make sense why someone would want to have this mindset. When we're in a good place or a bad place we adapt to the comfort level and it's not always easy to let go and change and see things become better. It's moving out of your comfort zone and change isn't easy. Putting in effort to want to get better can be uncomfortable and maybe painful. So it's understandable that someone might want to just keep to their current state and not want anything to be different, even if it might be better

resistance to healing is a normal reaction for those who had spent considerable time in dark places. Sometimes in life more often than we would like, we go through pain that we arent prepared for we dwell in these dark places far longer than intended. Ironically drawing comfort from familiarity with heartbreaks n sufferings within the darkness. Solitude can bring peace n relief from aggressive fights, and further pressures of life. Hence inertia to this state of being is normal. Many depressed people have grown accustomed to the feelings and seeming tranquilities of this hopeless state. This however is dangerous and we need to manifest greater control in every area of our lives.We need to put on new lenses and see our mental illnesses as life-changing turning points where we grow and metamorphosize into someone better, stronger n more resilient.