Is it normal to not want to get better?
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Moderated by Smita Joshi, BA Psychology / MA / Advanced EFT Practitioner
Updated: Feb 19, 2023
RubyDragonTea
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Sep 19, 2019
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I don't know. I know that sometimes it feels like you never will get better, even if you wanted to. But I don't think wanting to get better is required. Maybe it is possible to keep going through the motions and get better, and maybe once you are a little better you will find the want to continue. When you are feeling so empty, maybe the right thing is not to ask. Not to ask if this is what you want, not to ask if you can do it. Just do it. Just keep going. You might find that you wanted to get better all along, and you were just too caught up in negative feelings to realize it.
Epikura
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Oct 16, 2019
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It’s something that is rarely talked about, but what you are experiencing is in fact normal. I dare say that almost every person struggling with mental health issues has been thinking this way at one point or another, a lot of them even while they were in treatment and had already gotten better. Usually it’s a lack of motivation, or a fear of the unknown that will fade again after a while, it doesn’t mean that you truly won’t ever want to get better. Recovery is often a lengthy process and not always an easy one. But ultimately it is worth it to work to get better. Don’t beat yourself up about thinking the way you are, you’re not alone with these thoughts and they won’t be the end of your progress. I wish you all the best!
yancore
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Oct 23, 2019
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Absolutely. During periods of sadness, anxiety, or anger, it feels as if you CAN'T get better, so what's the point? It's incredibly common for individuals to feel as if there is no point in trying to recover from a habit or mental illness. However, it is strongly suggested by lots of people to put in the effort of recovery. For example, self-injury. Those who use self-injury as a coping mechanism may not want to give it up for a variety of reasons, but a main one is usually it's what has worked for them for a long time; something they could turn to and something that would listen to them when nothing would.
To sum up that whole paragraph, yes. Should you at least put in some effort towards recovery? Possibly.
Anonymous
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Nov 18, 2019
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No, it's not normal. it is fine to take your time to feel how you feeling and to feel grief for sometimes it’s kind of like your emotional right you are free to feel so and nobody should tell you how you should be feeling in certain situations. But at one point it is very important to step up. That is the only right path for you and the people around you. You can’t be in the dark forever. It’s never healthy for anyone. Never forget humans are emotional being and they will be feeling all sorts of emotions but it’s never okay to be stuck on one. Sadness and heartbreaks always give us so many lessons it only helps us in becoming a better and best version of ourselves. So yea takes your time but don’t be stuck in one place.
LinaJadeTitus247
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Nov 24, 2019
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I can't say what is normal and what isn't because quite frankly, there is no such thing as "normal". It is "common" for a lot of people who are used to things being a certain way to be afraid of change. This is because, even if the change is for the better, it is unfamiliar. And thus, scary and unwelcome. So yes you are technically correct, in a way. but It is not good, and you may need professional help to really ease you into the healing process. I truly hope you can make it through the wellness path, and emerge happy and healthy. Good luck!
Anonymous
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Dec 4, 2019
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Everyone has there own time span. Think through as to why you have certain feelings and identify the reasons. Be honest with yourself . You are not alone . I am here to help you and guide you. What makes you happy land feel better. Think on a positive note. Know that you are important and can do whatever you set your mind to. You will have good and bad days but keeping a positive mind will help. We learn from life’s experiences. Keep learning and strive to be the best you can.
beck1
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Dec 7, 2019
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I think it is very normal to not want to get better. Sometimes whatever we are going through or experiencing can become our comfort because we know it's not changing. But when it does change, and if we do get better, then we walk down a path of unknown and that can be very scary.
It also may feel like the support we were getting while we were going through whatever we go through may go away because we are better. Again, this can be scary because we don't want relationship to end with people who have given us support
aturquoisezebra
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Jan 22, 2020
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I definitely think it can feel like we don't want to get better, but that's a problematic way of thinking; mental illnesses like anxiety or depression tend to exhaust and drain people of their energy, and this makes it more difficult to find motivation to initiate things. It might not be that you don't "want" to get better, but that you're simply struggling with a mental illness that is telling you, "You don't need to. Just stay where you are."
It's okay to be patient with yourself and your recovery process. Professional help is most effective when you're ready to accept it. But when you start feeling the inkling that you're ready, try not to let your mental illness convince you otherwise.
interestingPudding37
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Jan 26, 2020
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It is normal to not want to get better, sometimes, or most often, we feel isolated and that no one understands our situation, causing us to refuse efforts to get out of our unpleasant state of mind. This might also be caused by being used to and too comfortable with our current state that it somehow became our comfort zone and the thought of getting out becomes terrifying. whatever the reason is, seeking for help is a brave step an individual can take and that as long as there is external motivation, one will have the possibility of feeling good again
Anonymous
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Feb 12, 2020
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Not wanting to get better is very malicious symptom of depression as it drags person deeper and deeper into black hole without even wanting to get better where all hopes are eventually lost. It is normal for people with depression to not wanting to get better but it also means that depression will drag deeper and deeper. It is one of reason that it is so hard to treat depression as these feelings are integral part of depression. Not wanting to get better can mean that you won't seek help, refuse to get help and thus you won't get help to get better. This way will depression go only worse and worse.
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