Is it normal to not want to get better?
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Moderated by Smita Joshi, BA Psychology / MA / Advanced EFT Practitioner
Updated: Feb 19, 2023
KnitterGirl
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Apr 18, 2018
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Absolutely! It can be very comfortable to stay where we are. Wanting to get better means accepting change, which can be frightening and difficult - but it can also be so worth it!
MilkyHoneyTea
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Apr 21, 2018
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Yes! I am feeling the same way right now, it has been so long since I have been normal I don't know what it's like! Normalcy scares me but by using this website you are taking a step towards managing your symptoms! You are taking the first stay! You are being successful! You are taking charge! You are being healthy! Thank you!
riv3rrr
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Apr 25, 2018
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It can be normal! Sometimes, we are so used to having our problems/illnesses that we let them define us. At that point, the thought of getting better might seem undesirable because you are so attached to your problems.
Anonymous
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Apr 26, 2018
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Many individuals feel as if they do not want to/cannot get better when they are unwell. This is not unheard of and can be a common thing.
HugsNPugs3
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Apr 28, 2018
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When you feel depressed you usually want to get even more depressed and that means you are not conscience of yourself and sane you have to realize it's all an illusion . Observe your thoughts and watch the thinker and just observe it
EspritDuKaren68
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May 2, 2018
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Yes, it is. Some of us may be unconsciously frightened of happiness and love because it is so foreign if we have any kind of past repressed or unrepressed trauma. Getting better acknowledges all the feelings we must feel to get there and maybe some of us aren't ready to face those feelings right now, so being 'stuck' is a form of comfort.
bluehorizons
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May 4, 2018
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Not wanting to get better usually means you have been affected on a deeply emotional or psychological level to where you blame yourself and harbour feelings of shame or guilt and feel you don't deserve to be loved, appreciate, or helped. Talking to a therapist or a loved one about how you feel more will be a big step in moving forward and feeling loved.
calmArrow24
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May 9, 2018
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I think it’s normal to think that way. For me, I got so used to feel awful that at one point I saw no reason to get better because I was used to not being okay. On top of which, even now, I sometimes feel like quiting and giving up on all the work I’ve done because I feel like I can live with my struggles because I’m so used to them.
SeekApotheosis50
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May 13, 2018
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Yes! For one thing, "better" and "healthy" are totally subjective terms that are determined by the wider culture. We are constantly bombarded with messages saying we have to be "happy" all the time to be considered healthy, but that isn't necessarily true.
Carly23
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May 18, 2018
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It is absolutely normal to not want to get better. Sometimes our situation provides a sense of comfort and familiarity to us.
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