Is it normal to not want to get better?
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Moderated by Smita Joshi, BA Psychology / MA / Advanced EFT Practitioner
Updated: Feb 19, 2023
Aiustha
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Jan 26, 2018
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Well, the person might be satisfied with his/her self, or doesn't see his/her flaws at the moment.
Like, maybe they like themselves just the way the are and don't feel the needs to change.
FromDrewWithLove
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Jan 28, 2018
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It's completely normal. Getting better takes effort and is a new experience when you've felt a certain way for a long time. It can seem scary and it seems easier just to stay the way you are. Even if these feelings make you feel miserable, they're familiar, so it's more comforting to choose familiar over unfamiliar (getting better). Also, you may not be ready to get better, which is also ok. Not everyone wants to get better. It's a pretty common experience.
nitwitoddmenttweakblubber
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Jan 31, 2018
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It is very normal. Sometimes when you've been in a low place for a long time, it almost feels like a security blanket. Getting better means stepping out of the comfort zone that you have made for yourself, and that's not an easy thing to do! However, as comfortable and safe as you may feel right now, there is so much more on the other side of those walls that are so difficult to scale. It's not an easy journey, and it's definitely not comfortable, but the payout is so worth it.
Anonymous
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Feb 3, 2018
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It is understandable, if not normal. Sometimes, the state we're in is all we know, so getting better is a foreign and perhaps even scary concept. However, getting better is a good thing, no matter how scary the unknown may seem.
EllenontheMountain
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Feb 3, 2018
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In some situations, the way you feel, even if it is negative, can give a feeling of safety. For many people, that can be difficult to get out of, so they are not able to work on themselves.
Anonymous
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Feb 4, 2018
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It is quite normal when we are feeling down and feel that things are not getting better. By unburdening ourselves, releasing distress (including by talking) can make us feel better. Feeling better is the first step in getting better.
Anonymous
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Feb 7, 2018
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It's normal to feel this way, because getting better is going to be hard and a struggle, but it is worth it in the end. trust me I did it.
Anonymous
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Feb 7, 2018
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I think this is sometimes normal. For me I have personally experienced a lot of trauma, and I believe you have to be ready to face your trauma. Right now, I believe that if I start therapy, It may overwhelm me with starting college. I find it helps to do meditations and self help for now.
Angel1011208
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Feb 8, 2018
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of course! some people feel like it's better to stay safe than sorry, maybe you're just scared of what's to come but it IS normal. the important thing now is to reflect on why and work on how!
Anonymous
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Feb 8, 2018
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It is a common thing to not want to get better when it is something your used to. It is like a routine and whether its good or bad it's hard to get out of. It is a normal feeling to feel however when you are ready to it will be easier to get better.
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