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I have no friends in high school or college. What should I do?

Profile: Square
Square on May 18, 2016
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High school is only a short part of your life. Once you get out of school you genuinely start learning who you really are and will find plenty of people like you
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Profile: coffeeprincess
coffeeprincess on Jun 21, 2016
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The best way to make friend is to just keep getting involved in activities you enjoy. It can be hard to get out there, especially when you feel so isolated, but getting involved in something you enjoy is the best way to find people with similar interests. I met some of my best friends by writing on a Disney roleplay blog--we had so much in common and kept interacting because we were having so much fun! Volunteer work would be another great way to meet people, especially people who are caring and compassionate (great qualities in a potential friend!) Volunteering for a good cause is a very effective way of increasing your feelings of belonging in a community.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jun 27, 2016
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You could try to go out and join programs or classes to meet people with similar interests, such as pottery classes.
Profile: carefreeNarwhal88
carefreeNarwhal88 on Jul 11, 2016
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try to talk and show them who you really are not all of them will accept you so keep searching.
Profile: fruitySmiles21
fruitySmiles21 on Sep 5, 2016
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Try small talk with people you like after class. Joining groups because remember that at college or school most people don't know each other. It's a great time to make some new friends !
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Sep 6, 2016
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Go out? Meet new people? Find those who have same interests/values as you? And important thing: it's ok to judge, so you don't make loser friends.
Profile: Xstitcher
Xstitcher on Nov 29, 2016
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Friendship can be a struggle, what helped me most when I was lonely and didn't have any friends was really trying to discover what I had a passion for. I found volunteering for various causes very helpful as it allowed me to meet some wonderful people who had similar passions to me.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 3, 2017
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Let your heart sing out. Try to be yourself in public and be friendly, ready to talk to everyone. Put up a smile and start a conversation on casual things like weather, school.
Profile: Connover
Connover on Apr 18, 2017
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This is both the easiest and the hardest answer- make some. Study in public. Eat in the cafeterias. Interact with strangers, even little things- especially little things. Compliment people on small stuff without being creepy. Join clubs- oh my gosh JOIN CLUBS. Even if they don't seem SUPER interesting, there has got to be SOME kind of club on your campus that is cool. Get a job. Talk to people about internship opportunities. Find a hobby! If you have a hobby, research what going on involving it in your area! Increase your social activity, your circle by doing things you wouldn't normally do. Practice social skills. There are so many websites and blogs and awesome books and all kinds of things that can help you along in social skills. Its really hard, and you aren't alone- just a little lonely right now. It gets so much easier the more you do it. Just put yourself out there. Fake it till you make it if you need to.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jul 18, 2017
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Put yourself out there! You'll find friends where you look. Become involved in extra curriculars your school offers. They'll be interested in the same things as you!
Profile: lbearsnacktime
lbearsnacktime on Dec 5, 2017
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It's normal to have trouble finding friends in places where your interests may not align. School is a second place (home is the first). If you're having trouble finding friends in a second place, try a third place, like a community centre, club, gaming space, etc. Go find a thing you love to do, and you'll find other people who love it too.
Profile: friendlyBerry48
friendlyBerry48 on Feb 6, 2018
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If you do not have friends in the places you go, you should try joining a club or take acting classes. Art classes and yoga will also introduce you to other people. Find what you enjoy and makes you happy, be confident and people will be drawn to you. Also understand that just because you do not have any friends does not mean there is something wrong with you. Some of the most intelligent thinkers in history were anti-social and had no friends!
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Dec 10, 2019
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Finding new social groups is a great way to meet people and make friends. This could be a club, religious organization, student committee, or any other gathering where there are other people who are interested in the same things you are. Once you meet someone who seems interesting, simply strike up a conversation. Ask them what brings them there and what their interests are. You will probably have at least one thing in common, and you can build from that. The easiest way to build a friendship is to find common ground. There are many people out there like you, in the same position as you, and they would love to be your friend.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jun 30, 2020
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It's normal to feel lonely and insecure in throughout school. Whether you realize it or not, many people including myself, all experience these feelings at least once in their educational journey. Don't be afraid to step up and be the person that initiates the first conversation with a classmate. Explore student communities! I know it can be hard but chances are, you'll feel so much better after getting out of your shell, reaching out to others, and making close connections. Most importantly, just be true to yourself. Don't feel pressured to conform to the people you're surrounded with. Just let your natural personality show and there's bound to be someone who will embrace you for it.
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