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How to forgive yourself for hurting someone?

Profile: Merridith
Merridith on Jan 13, 2019
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Identify if there is anyone in your life who has recently treated you badly or if there was someone in your past, maybe a parent or and ex, or a best friend. Maybe it’s not a person who hurt you, perhaps was a situation or circumstance, identify what is was, accepting that something bad happened to you or someone behaved badly towards you is the first step, knowing the reality of what happened and get being a way to let it go, try to work out your feelings and for live your self for not being tolerant of that person or situation, just having an awareness that maybe we play some part in what happens to us can help shape our future, I am far less likely to hurt someone else if I am taking control of my future and am accepting of my self, lastly let it go, it’s in forgiveness and letting go of the past that I can truelly extend the best version my self not only to others and to create more of a life that I want that is loving and peaceful and kind
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Profile: ZoraAurora
ZoraAurora on Jan 19, 2019
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You can forgive yourself by first recognizing what you did that hurt the other person. The next step is to sincerely apologise and make a commitment to not repeat the thing that caused someone else pain. Make this commitment to change to both the person who was hurt and also to yourself. Find out what motivated you to make the mistake that harmed someone else. Come up with other ways to handle that situation if you encounter it again. Try to come up with more than one solution and consider obstacles to enacting those solutions before the problem arises again.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 20, 2019
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It's not easy to forgive yourself but you need to move on with your life time will help you to forgive yourself for hurting someone it doesn't come easy but you will get there in time remember forgiving yourself isnt an easy fix but it's something else one has to do in time it's so much easier to forgive yourself for hurting someone then it is to live with the guilt, if you can forgive others for hurting you then forgive yourself for hurting someone else , forgive yourself to move forward in your life
Profile: pq
pq on Mar 27, 2019
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This question is one that I think we all experience. I recently broke up with my girlfriend of ten months and I personally believe the easiest way to forgive yourself is to ask, "why?" Without the why, we spiral downwards and forget who we are and oftentimes see ourselves in such a negative light that the brightness of reality is hard to find. You forgive yourself for hurting someone by understanding the truth of life; no one can move through it without getting hurt. If you've ever been hurt and forgiven someone, then you should know that you yourself should be able to be forgiven. It's that simple, really. We make mistakes, or maybe we make good choices; we have to accept our choices so that we can move forward.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Apr 6, 2019
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First thing, is taking time to understand that everyone is going to make mistakes, we are all still learning. You cannot beat yourself up for hurting someone, as much as it sucks that you feel you have hurt someone you care about, these things happen in life, you can’t dwell on the situation but instead find ways to resolve it which will naturally make you feel happier as a person. Blaming yourself and refusing to forgive yourself will make the situation have a much worse impact on you, remember we all make mistakes. Nobody is perfect , if we blamed ourselves for every mistake we made nobody would be happy. It’s okay to make mistakes sometimes.
Profile: Hanaa00
Hanaa00 on Jun 12, 2019
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The answer to this question depends on the situation and the people involved, so I cannot objectively talk about it. So I’ll, instead, briefly share my own experience. Recently, I have lost a very important and great individual in my life due to something i have done that had hurt him. Now, in order to fully understand and emphasize with his feelings at the time, and in order to truly understand and face what i have done, i needed to do a lot of self reflecting. I questioned some of my fundamental characteristics which led me to many discoveries about myself and things i needed to change about myself in order to not ever hurt anyone in the same way. In the end, i ended up writing him a letter (in which I acknowledged what i have done and shared some of my self reflection and mostly cherished the time we’ve spent together and overall him as a person). I didn’t have any agenda for writing that letter, but i did feel like it was the right thing to do on my path of self forgiveness.
Profile: gracefulBeauty72
gracefulBeauty72 on Jun 21, 2019
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By Reminding yourself that you are human and make mistakes like everyone else. Once you recognize that reality, you should apologize to the person you’ve hurt and take steps to right the wrong you’ve caused as much as possible. By apologizing and taking steps to right the wrong you’ve created, the hurt person will hopefully acknowledge your attempts and forgive you. If the wronged person forgives you, hopefully will lead you to forgive yourself so that you may heal and move forward as well. Also, it is necessary for us to try to figure out why we hurt someone else which may also help us to forgive ourselves
Profile: naturalHoney13
naturalHoney13 on Aug 16, 2019
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Just remember that in moments, often times we are just doing the best we can with what we've been given. So try to be patient with yourself as you're learning how sometimes the way you react isn't appropriate. And being honest with the person you hurt will help them see that you're only human, too! Definitely easier said than done I'm afraid, but so worth it. If you genuinely care about their well being, the best thing you can do is apologize sincerely and then let them know what frame of mind you were in during the situation. Then they can choose to forgive you, and you'll have a clear conscience too!
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Aug 22, 2019
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I feel like that's a difficult thing to accomplish. Despite someone forgiving us for our actions, we still have this sense of guilt that lingers for a long time. It is important to remember that you need to acknowledge your mistake, and think of it as an experience that you have learned from. Most importantly you need to give yourself time to heal. It is always difficult to forgive yourself for hurting someone simply because you are you worst critic, but rather than criticising yourself, try to understand that you're only human and we all make mistakes that we can't take back.
Profile: GioGio02
GioGio02 on Oct 16, 2019
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Guilt is a very difficult emotion. I am a guilty person and hate when I hurt people. You need to accept the mistake and work through your emotions. It's great to acknowledge them but then you might want to discern if you want to rebuild or move on from who you've hurt. Only then will you get closure and when you do, that is key in finally being able to forgive yourself. Then finally you could, but your own situation may denote some factors of guilt and forgiveness. If it's a stranger, an apology will suit - if family or friends you may need time.
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