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How to forgive yourself for hurting someone?

Profile: aestheticmind
aestheticmind on Jul 1, 2016
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When a person hurt someone, It not only upsets the person who is hurt but it also affects the former . And if that happens with you too that means you have a realization, which shows a level of generosity. You forgive yourself once you become fully aware of your mistakes.
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bubblyPineapple01 on Jul 9, 2017
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Before you can forgive yourself, you need to take steps to help the person you have hurt. There is nothing you can do to take back what you may have done, but helping the person to move forward and heal can help you learn to forgive yourself. Don't just apologize with words, do it with actions. It may be hard if they don't want to see you, but give yourself and the person time. Once they have forgiven you and moved on, continue to be a supportive presence in their life, and slowly you will start to forgive yourself.
Profile: TheonetruZ
TheonetruZ on Apr 1, 2016
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The easiest way to forgive yourself is not to. We all make mistakes. We repeat what we forget. We can't forget what we can't forgive. Rather than forgive yourself, strive to be worth the forgiveness of whom you hurt.
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Anonymous on Jun 14, 2017
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Think about the frame of mind you were in at the time, then feel the feelings of guilt and other things that pass through your mind, really feel them, and then let them go.
Profile: CrimsonMoon46
CrimsonMoon46 on Nov 19, 2017
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Try reading the book Self Compassion by Kristen Neff, it's really great and changed the way I think about myself and about guilt in general. We're all human and we all deserve compassion, even from ourselves. Making mistakes is all part of being a human being. You are worthy of forgiveness and compassion.
Profile: Tiannalovesyou
Tiannalovesyou on Apr 4, 2016
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Like others have said, I think it is so important that you realize everyone makes mistakes, and you should never forget that. Obviously you feel bad bad about whatever happened because you have come here looking for help. That's great! One thing that I have learned is that it is important to give yourself the chance to process what happened, whether that is by yourself or with someone whom you trust. It is very easy to let mistakes become you, but you must move past it and acknowledge it as something that you aren't proud of but that doesn't make you a bad person.
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The first step you have to take is to realize what you did wasn't the right thing to do and acknowledge that you regret it. After that, promise yourself you won't do it again, no matter what. Then you can start to forgive yourself
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Anonymous on Oct 25, 2016
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When we feel guilty about hurting someone, not only is important to apologise to the person we hurt, but it's also important to apologise to and forgive ourselves. Often we cannot move past something that causes us shame or guilt because we are holding onto it. Why are you holding on to this? For each person and each circumstance it will be different. Some people thing they deserve to feel bad. You deserve to feel good! If you've already apologised to the person, recognize what you did wrong, and are going to be mindful to not be insensitive like that again, that's all you can do. It's time to forgive yourself, assure yourself you did everything you could to rectify things, say something loving to yourself, and move on. Use healthy distractions, self-reflection and mindfulness to help you on your way.
Profile: WhenTheTimeComes
WhenTheTimeComes on Jul 15, 2017
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By accepting first and foremost that we all hurt someone sometimes, it's unavoidable, it's life itself. Not forgiving yourself for it might prevent you from being able to makes things better for the person you have hurt. So keep that in mind, don't wallow in useless guilt, hurting is ok it is life, by forgiving yourself you can move to the moment where you can make things better for everyone :)
Profile: Tina167
Tina167 on Feb 28, 2018
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Now this one needs lot of courage but first we need to get heal from the whole sitution and for our own inner peace it's important to forgive them and move on in life now again don't mix forgivness with accepting them back in life you just have to let go all the bitterness you have towards that person for your own sanity and mentle heath
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