How to forgive yourself for hurting someone?

Realize that it wasn't you intention... That the person probably doesn't think about it much... And that it was the past

Sometimes forgiving yourself is the hardest person to forgive. In my experience, forgiving yourself starts with understanding what happened and how the other person feels. Sometimes, you may not have even upset them and just feel like you have. Talking with that person about how you feel, can help them and help you come to terms with what you're feeling.

You first ask for forgiveness from the one you have hurt, if possible. Even if they don't forgive you, you did what was right in apologizing and asking for their forgiveness. Then, being gentle with yourself and knowing we all make mistakes and act out of character at times. No one is without flaw.

The first step may be to apologize to this person if you are able. It is a lot easier to forgive yourself if you don't trap your guilt inside of you, because over time it can just build up. And to also know we are all human. Every single one of us makes mistakes, nobody is exempt from this. We're not human if we don't make mistakes. So try not to be too hard on yourself.

It is part of human nature to make mistakes. While it is never good to hurt other people, often we hurt others unintentionally, or because we ourselves are suffering. If you have not already, be sure to apologize and do what you can to rectify the situation, but if there is nothing further you can do, you should let it go as much as you can. Guilt eats away at a person, and it is best to let it go if you can. If you have done all you can to fix it, it is time to let your mistake go.

When I've experienced challenges like this in the past, I have found it helpful to remind myself that I'm human. Humans make mistakes. We're not perfect and sometimes we do things that we really wish we hadn't. I like to take a moment to acknowledge that I'm disappointed in myself, and recognize that no amount of beating myself up will change what happened. Rather, by being kind to myself I provide the space and opportunity to learn how to be more mindful of these situations in the future. Self-compassion exercises can be really helpful for this!

To forgive yourself for hurting someone is to essentially come to terms with the fact that you can't change the past. If the person you've hurt doesn't yet forgive you, then it would be harder for you do do as well, so that would be the first step. If they have forgiven you, then its just kind of up to you to stop thinking in the past and live in the present.

The first thing to do would be to identify why you hurt them. Was it personal? Was it competitive? Was it accidental? Second, analyse how you felt after you realised you hurt them. Third, ask yourself whether or not you would - consciously or unconsciously - do it again, to them or to anyone else. Fourth, try to have them forgive you. I've found that I feel a lot better if I know that there's little/no hard feelings. Fifth, remind yourself that you're only human, and we all make mistakes. Sixth, and most importantly, try to counter that negativity with positivity. Help that person, make them smile, earn forgiveness rather than begging for it.

Remember that you as a person are unique, an individual and special. There's no one out there like you, and if that person forgives you for hurting them, then it's time to take it upon yourself to remember that there is only one you, and if you do not forgive yourself then you won't be entirely happy and wont be able to look at the future and be excited for what is to come

I've never actually forgiven someone, but I tend to just forget about that person, and move on with my life.