How to forgive yourself for hurting someone?

Forgiveness is a choice. Don’t wait for it to just wash over you all of a sudden. You have to choose it. The pain of what happened is inevitable, but continuing to suffer is optional. The only person you can control is you. Don’t cling to negative feelings. Anger is nothing more than an outward sign of hurt, fear, guilt, grief or frustration. While the pain may never completely disappear, forgiveness can help you release the anger. There is no right timeline for recovery. For some people, making peace happens suddenly and spontaneously. For others, it takes time and effort. You may have to make a conscious effort every day to forgive. To say, “I’m letting this go. I’m not going to invest hatred, bitterness, anger, resentment in this anymore.” You can find closure in forgiveness. You can’t change the things that happened in your life, but you can decide how you interpret and respond to them. If you didn’t receive support when you needed it, give it to yourself now. Listen to your internal dialogue. What are you saying to yourself? Write them down without censoring them. Is what you’re saying fair and true? If not, generate new ways of thinking. Someone may have said horrible things to you long ago, but it’s possible you took over for them when it stopped. Consider what you need to do to get emotional closure. Maybe you just need a simple apology. Find your Minimal Effective Response — the easiest thing you can do to resolve your pain. Share your experience with others. Finding a lesson in what happened can help put the experience in perspective and your emotions in check. People can thrive and suffer at the same time.

Everybody does mistakes sometimes. It's okay. It is a normal thing, you shouldn't hate yourself for it.

To remember that we are all humans. We all make mistakes. And the best we can do is to ask for forgiveness from that person so we can start forgiving ourselves, too.

You need to get their forgiveness first. Apologizing is difficult, especially when you feel like they were in the wrong, and not you. But after you apologize for your part in the struggle, a huge weight will be lifted and you'll be able to feel alot better, even if they decide not to accept it/apologize for what they did.

When I've hurt someone, I always apologize and it makes me feel a little better. But I also try to accept it because whatever has happened is done and can't be reversed, right? Most of all, everything happens for a reason and that's how I forgive myself.

Try to be nicer to others, and try to improve yourself so that you won't hurt others in the future.

If you are speaking to that person again then you have already forgiven yourself by not even knowing it because they have forgiven you.

It's hard when you realise that you did something wrong but Its the greatest thing ever , to realise it and that shows how strong you are as a person and how clear you are about your morals . You can forgive yourself by doing just the opposite of what you did before. for eg, If you bullied someone before , you can try and be the protector of those getting bullied . :)

Take experience from what you feel you did wrong, and try to avoid being in the same situation in the future

Make sure you've learned the lesson. Fully understood what you did that was wrong and promise yourself you won't do it again... we are our own harshest judges sometimes so use this teaching moment then move on and be better next time :)