How to forgive yourself for hurting someone?

Accept yourself and your flaws. You are not perfect. You make mistakes. Your mistakes and failures help you improve. As flawed as you may be, you must accept yourself, flaws and all, if you are to make progress in your life. Remember that you are not a bad person. You can do something wrong while still being a good person. A lot of guilt or shame can make you feel like there is something wrong with you. Talk to someone. Sometimes you just need to get it off your chest. Talking to someone else about what is bothering you can have serious benefits. Forgiving yourself is far more challenging than forgiving someone else because you must live with yourself and your thoughts 24/7. Despite the challenge, emotionally healthy people must have the capacity to forgive themselves when they have made a mistake. When you forgive yourself, you are not pretending as though it never happened. On the contrary, you are acknowledging that your actions have consequences. But the consequences need not include self-inflicted negative feelings. Not forgiving yourself is like picking at an open wound; you are only making a bad situation worse. The wound is already there, but you do have control over your reaction to it, and you can stop it from getting worse. If you forgive yourself when you make a mistake, it’s easier to address the consequences of your action in a productive way.

Accept yourself and your mistakes. Say to yourself that you accept your mistakes and you have learned from them. No matter how wrong it was, it's already done and the only way I can take control of it is to not repeat it.

The best thing is to just give it time. Apologize and accept what happened and accept the fact that moving on from it is going to be a process. From personal experience, it took me a little over a year to fully forgive myself for hurting someone really special to me. I think what helped most was that I knew how the other person felt about it too. After a while, she let me know that she wasn't upset anymore and that she would just like to put the past behind us. That just left the 'forgiving myself' part, which took a long time, but all I did was leave it alone. I just let things be, and I let whatever happen happen. I did my best not to overthink things.

Everyone should have a second chance. Think about how you would react if you wouldnt get a second chance to prove that you can change your behaviour :)

Try to figure out why you did it and what happened that made you do it. Once you figure out why you hurt them and try to work with them to help them forgive you while you forgive yourself.

First of all, you need to accept that you've hurt the person, don't think about it too much. I believe that everything happens for a reason. Use this mistake to help you become a better person. Also, if you can, ask the person for forgiveness. It's good to get closure. Over time, your guiltiness will fade away. Just remember that you are an amazing person and that your mistakes DON'T define you.

The only for me to forgive myself for hurting someone to face that 'someone' again and apologize. The only way for me to move on and let go is to correct my wrong doings.

I think it's important to remember that everybody is human and therefore everybody makes mistakes. I think everybody has hurt someone at one point in their life - whether that be on purpose or accidentally. It's nearly impossible to avoid. What matters more is what you do after the fact. First, acknowledge responsibility for your actions and apologize to the person. Maybe try to make it up to them by doing them a favor, buying them flowers, taking them out to a nice dinner, etc. Actions speak louder than words, after all! While it's important to say that you're sorry, you also have to show them that you're sorry as well. Then try to learn from your mistakes and identify ways that you can avoid doing the same thing in the future. If you keep repeating your mistakes and hurting somebody over and over again, your apologies are going to start to lose their meaning. The best way you can prove to a person that you're sincere in your apology is by changing the problematic behavior! You're not defined by just one mistake. One mistake doesn't make you a bad person. As long as you try your best to learn from your mistakes, grow, and change, that's what matters most!

You should accept your mistake, try to apologize for your actions and fix anything you can. Once you've recognized what you did wrong and done everything you can to right it, guilt is pointless- you've done what you can, and you should give yourself permission to move on and grow.

You have to understand why you hurt the person, understand that you did it, and remember to do better next time. You can't change the past, but you can change who you are and how you treat other people in the future.