How to forgive yourself for cheating or lying?

I think we, as human beings, strive to live the best life we can, unless something is stopping us from doing so. In the event of cheating, whether that be in a relationship or on a test, and lying, whether that be to a friend or to a stranger - we all do it for a reason. That reason is likely to be to make our lives that little bit better. Sometimes people, like my mother used to, lie compulsively. She did that to defend her insecurities, and it was often better to give her the benefit of the doubt, because I knew she wasn't doing it in malice. How does this lead into forgiveness? Unless you feel you're truly doing something with the intention to hurt another person or cause great upset, then you should try to feel content with having tried your best in your situation to improve your life or your chances in that situation. Only you know what your intentions were, and if they were pure and out of your interests, you should at least try to take solace in that.

1. Apologies to the person you hurt. 2. Accept what has already happened and leave it in the past. Let it be a lesson to not repeat the same mistakes in the future. As you become successful at not repeating the mistakes you will be proud of yourself. 3. Tell yourself out loud every day, "I forgive myself" until you believe it.

Know that beating yourself up doesn't help. Accept that you made poor decisions and take responsibility for the consequences. Knowing that you're doing all you can will help you come to a place where you can forgive yourself.

To forgive ourselves is one of the hardest things to do. Remain yourself that everyone makes mistakes, everyone is guilty of something. And take it from there. Maybe find someone to talk to about it and help you guide through that process. It's hard, but not impossible. Hope you'll find peace

Practice mindfulness meditation and learn to love yourself, you could try yoga or maybe going for a run etc. Just anything that gets you going really, it will help you feel better and leg go of some of the guilt.

Self-forgiveness is critical to well-being—but it needs to be balanced with responsibility-taking, when appropriate. It empowers you to recognize the pain you suffered without letting that pain define you, enabling you to heal and move on with your life.The self-forgiveness method most conducive to constructive change seems to involve an acknowledgement of both positive and negative aspects of the self. :)

well if you cheated or lied to someone best thing is to tell the truth and explain / work through things with the person because if they find out they will be more hurt than you telling, forgiveness is a chance but a break or removal of the person as well, but what is better you feeling guilty and hurting someone or you not feeling guilty and want that person to feel more. and be more understanding.

If you have a need to forgive yourself for anything, it means that you have a bad conscience about what you did. It means that you care about what you did. That care is reason enough for you to forgive yourself in itself. You just need to do it. In retrospect, you can't undo what you did. What you can do is to try to make things better for the person that you said/did things to. Say sorry. That will make it easier for you to forgive yourself. It's also important not to make up excuses, as that would just increase that bad conscience that you had in the first place.

Sometimes it's not about forgiveness and more about growth. Adapt and learn from the mistakes of lying or cheating and accept what is done. Become someone better and learn from the mistakes! Guide those who have walked the same path and correct their mistakes! As you do this you might just learn that forgiveness comes through time and action and is not given but earned! Forgiveness is something you may and can give yourself but the worth of that forgiveness can only be measured through the deed and actions you take to make yourself better in all things in life. We are only human and so is the fate we live. Our imperfections make us perfect and our strive to perfection makes us better people! "Don't worry, Be happy!"

Not only can you, it is imperative that you do. The hardest person to forgive is often yourself. This shows you have a conscious and a desire to be good and to be loved. You have failed to meet your own standards for feeling worthy of being considered good and deserving love, and that is painful. Learn and grow from this pain, so you can emerge a wiser more compassionate version of yourself. By striving to do this, you are worthy of your own forgiveness. Failing to move forward in a more positive direction is perpetuating your failure and keeping you from being your best self from this point forward. You did something very selfish and hurtful. You put your selfish desires before the feelings of someone you care about. So move forward trying to be a little more selfless everyday, loving and serving, and trying to bring happiness to others. Love is an action that puts the other person before you. By living this way, you will again come love and respect yourself, and see your failure as an opportunity for growth, and you will feel forgiveness. You are not a horrible person; you are a work in progress. So progress. Much love. - P