How to forgive yourself for cheating or lying?
Anonymous
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Feb 7, 2019
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We as people make choices we do not always normally approve.
You might regret a lie, but you have done it, there are no take-backs. Which can be frightening for some, but in order to forgive yourself you have to release that burden, growing from doing something wrong.
You’ve done it, you’ve most likely learnt, and now it is the time to focus on good.
What is worse, standing in the pouring rain of your tears from regret, or moving on as a person who learns from their errors?
You are not a bad person for making a bad decision. Remember.
ElectusGuardian
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Feb 15, 2019
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Always understand that you are who you are today at this moment and not the person you were before. Remember to not repeat this action.. and be kind. You may have been afraid at that point in regards to something. It could be the fact that you're afraid of missing out, or afraid of not being able to be yourself in the process. Being kind to yourself is important. Everything that has happened to us is a journey towards a better self. Write a reflection on why you decided to do what you did. And then be aware of your feelings and how you can overcome it in the future. Remember to stay patient in the process.
wildflowerbee
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Feb 20, 2019
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I think the best way to forgive yourself for cheating or lying is by considering the situation and your thoughts and your feelings at that time. When you do do that, you realise that you could have done things differently, right? But that is what you think NOW, that is what you think because of who you are now, and you will realise that overtime you have grown, that is why you are feeling the guilt and the remorse now. So give yourself credit for growing and coming to the point that you think that you should have done things differently and if now faced with the same situation you will.
Ashes2Ashes1984
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Mar 10, 2019
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We all have done something that felt right at that specific time and sometime it was the right thing to do and other time it was the wrong thing to do. We need these experience to learn and growth from them. I have lied several times in my life because it felt like the right thing to avoid hurting the other person or getting into a more serious conversation that would not be useful in our relationship. The truth is that true forgiveness takes time and even more time with guilt. It is something that you have to be honest with yourself and express freely in order to grow from it. we learn from our mistakes. And lies are sometime a mistake that we have to learn from and deal with the effect of them. Often in any relationship (i don't mean solely one type) after the incident of lying more conversation will hopefully follow and things will be talk out.
bravePomegranate53
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Mar 17, 2019
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To forgive yourself you have to accept that things like that happen. Maybe you went through a difficult time, and circumstances made you take your choices at the time. It doesn't mean you were right, or that you should do the same again. But beating up yourself in a long time doesn't make things better. Say sorry to the person you have hurt, and take learning from what you did and how you should act in another way in the future. Making a white lie is sometimes necessary, but it should not become a habit. To lie to harm others is never ok.
LotusBay
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Jun 27, 2019
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The first step to forgiving yourself is to first recognize the consequences of your actions. Only after you have recognized the consequences of your actions, can you then take responsibility for them. Learn from the mistakes you have made. Remaining mad at one's self after you have already accepted responsibility for the wrongful act, is unhelpful. You can only truly learn from your mistake if you allow yourself to be forgiven. Holding a grudge against yourself stops you from truly learning from the experience, and makes you attempts to move on fruitless. Ultimately, if you wish to forgive yourself, you must remember the most important thing: You are only human and that means you are allowed to make mistakes.
Anonymous
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Jul 19, 2019
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You recognize what you did wrong and take responsibility for it, then you try to work on bettering yourself for you and your partner and slowly you may begin to forgive yourself. You can also dig into why you cheated or lied and if it’s a legitimate reason, maybe ending a relationship where you feel trapped is a good idea, I cannot give advice though and I truly would not like to break any relationships based on my own experiences. You are the only one that truly knows your situation and reflection can certainly help you find a verdict as well.
MissLisa
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Aug 22, 2019
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We are all human beings and we all make mistakes from time to time. However it is important that we forgive ourselves to avoid it hanging over us and causing problems. Give yourself the compassion and forgiveness that you would give to someone else. If you can forgive others, then you can certainly forgive yourself also. You could also apologise to the person who you lied or cheated on as this may help you forgive yourself and gain closure. If you have learnt a lesson from your wrong doing then you should be able to move on knowing your a better person from learning from your mistake.
VctorSomm
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Aug 29, 2019
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You forgive yourself once realise what you have done.
Because if you dont forgive yourself would be hard to keep going, live your life and also helping someone else.
Being honest with yourself is the key to build up your strength, confident and friendship.
Of course is not easy to do it but step by step we can get so many things into the good way, just helping ourself been more honest, more confident, reliable.
So the first step to forgive someone is starts with your own forgiveness and from that moment on, you have to be the one you want to be
CaseyDianne
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Aug 30, 2019
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Disappointing your self throughout life is something that many deal with. Forgiving yourself may be harder than one may think. There may be things that we didn't mean to do, but we did. We must live in the "here and now" rather than the "then and there". This means we cannot live for how we wish things were, but rather for what things are in this moment. It is normal to make mistakes, and it's okay to admit that you were wrong. I also feel as though it's equally important to right your wrongs, and continue by forgiving yourself. Sometimes, a person themselves can be their worst critic, It's important to show yourself love, self care and concern when it comes to things like this. Forgiving yourself is a process, but it's an attainable process. Continue to work at self love everyday, and be willing to forgive yourself.
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