How to forgive yourself for cheating or lying?

We all do things that we aren’t very proud of. It’s part of human nature to be flawed and not perfect all of the time. It can be really hard later to deal with the guilt of what happened. I would recommend doing your best to make peace with yourself. Try to understand your motivations and think of what you could do in the future instead. Try to evaluate your values to see if that is the behaviour that you want. It doesn’t mean that you’re a bad person. Just that you made a bad choice. We all do, and it’s never to late to change our behaviour. Acceptance, reflection, and moving forward with new ideas and goals.

It can be difficult when we feel like we’ve disappointed someone else or even ourselves by not living up to our values. One of the things that can help is extend forgiveness to ourself is to recognise we are on a journey of growing and learning. Just like a child learning to walk still occasionally falls down, we will make mistakes as well... we then have a choice to get up and learn from them. Keeping this kind of growth mindset allows us to extend compassion and forgiveness to ourselves. We can also use these opportunities to refine our values and grow.

First you should understand and be one hundred percent aware of what has happened. Then, after you recognized your mistake, you should try to move on with your life. You should tell the person who you lied to what you have done and tell them how all of it makes you feel. Apologize to them if you feel the need to do so, stay true to yourself and try to learn with your mistakes. That's how you get better as a human being. Remember that doing things wrong is a part of being human. We all make mistakes, that makes us human.

Ouch, I wish I knew. I cheated two years ago and haven't been able to forgive myself yet, and neither has my husband. The result so far is I've spent two years swirling around the drain and then falling into a deep dark depression, then developing some truly serious anxiety disorders. So, if you do ANYTHING to help yourself, forgive yourself however you can. The alternative sucks and I'm not even sure if I'm capable of forgiveness at this point, after a couple years piling on the negative emotions and being able to see myself only with disgust and distrust.

I strongly believe that the first and most important thing to do is set the record straight with whomever you have been dishonest with. I feel that it would be difficult to forgive yourself if the other party is completely unaware. In an ideal world they would forgive you and in turn you’d pardon yourself, but should it not play out in this way you can rest easy knowing you have done the right thing. Being honest and open moving forward is the best way to forgive yourself and earn back some good karma points! Best of luck :)

We all are humans. We make mistakes. We are given a life but not a plan or path to deal with it its okay to make mistakes. "You are not your biggest mistake" Obviously, we cannot forget things easily but we can always move on the path. Life is a book. Don't stop because of one bad page. Forgive yourself and move on. If you can correct things then go ahead but if you can't, then letting go of is the only repentance. Take the chance and keep the lesson. Listen! Forgiving yourself is the sign of a strong mind and faith in lord.

Accepting who you are and learning from your mistakes are both so important. We can never undo the consequences we've endured or will by being honest, the best thing to do is come clean with ourselves. You're worth every bit of happiness you can get out of life, if you've never hurt anyone and are only protecting yourself then you have nothing to feel guilty for. If something is for survival, it's necessary. We all have needs, instinct and desires that require fulfillment. It only matters that you are safe and that nobody gets physically hurt or emotionally triggered. Keep calm and just try to breathe.

I think forgiving yourself is often based on acknowledging the reasons behind your choices. For example, if you cheated, why did you cheat? What were the underlying issues in yourself and the relationship? Everyone makes mistakes, and as horrible as it can be to hurt someone else, you need to work on your self-forgiveness in stages, especially if your actions have caused the loss of a relationship, be it friendship, family or romantic. You need to accept your wrongs, time to grieve and then time to work on your personal forgiveness. An important aspect of the latter is NOT TO WALLOW IN YOUR SADNESS. Get up, go out, join a gym, pick up a hobby, start working hard or talking to people you love. Make time for people who make you happy and maybe reconnect with an old friend. As bad as what you did was, you need to gain back self love and nothing does that more than achieving a goal that you made just for you. I hope this helps :)

I try very hard to live, and to treat others as I want them to be with me, so it is my goal to be as honest as possible. Being human, though, I am not perfect! If I do let a white lie slip, or happen to "lie by omission", the first thing I do to forgive myself is to admit that it happened, and that I am human. I then try to connect with the other person and own up to what I did. Figuring out the reason behind the lie is as important as being honest. Discovering a potential trap towards telling future false-hoods can prevent a whole lot of trouble! Finally, letting go of what happened and moving forward helps in healing both sides!

We are only human, so it is not uncommon for the occasional cheat or lie. It is difficult to remind ourselves that we do not need to be perfect, we do not expect others to be perfect, so why is it that we strive for perfection in ourselves?, and cheating and lying can bring on feelings of guilt and imperfection. I think if we accept our imperfections and mistakes then we may learn to forgive ourselves, and in the future we will do better. We are all trying our best, so please do not be too hard on yourself.