How to forgive yourself for cheating or lying?

There are Forgiveness communities on this site, and if you are a listener, there are guides under My Path > Training/Certificates. There is also the Forgiveness Path ;) Good luck!

Forgiving yourself may be the most difficult part of the ordeal. If you're feeling you can't forgive yourself, my suggestion would probably be to just come clean and admit to what you've done. They'll be a lot you have to answer for but it's definitely worth it..

If it was done out of hurt and pain it is easier to forgive than it it was done intentionally. But realizing that we lie to protect others might not make it too difficult to forgive ourselves either.

Firstly you confess to the person so that you can gain forgiveness from them and with that you will automatically forgive yourself

realize we are all people of mistakes and missteps and wrong doings its what we choose to do after that defines how you can give yourself or not.

Apoligise and admit to the person that you have cheated on or lied too, it might not make everything better but it will make you feel better for admitting that you have done wrong.

Accept to yourself, that you are at fault for cheating or lying. A hundred excuses can be given, but the fact remains that YOU chose to cheat or to lie. Acceptance is the start to the road to forgiveness!

Understanding that you have made a mistake and accepting that mistake helps you move forward with working on yourself and learning from that mistake. :)

Accept that you are human and that you make mistakes, we are a sum of our experiences, past and present and circumstances. Maybe you did something you're not proud of,but that's alright, you learn and you move on to make better mistakes.

Understand that it happens. I find that people fit morals and people that commit so called 'immoral behavior' into segments and archetypes in their head, that perhaps these people are just naturally immoral and depraved, but those archetypes aren't true, and people can slip into a bad situation sometimes without even knowing it. Understand that it's not just your problem, it's a human problem, and that as long as you own up to it, and understand what you did wrong and why, then precautions could be taken in the future to prevent your future partner from being hurt