How to forgive yourself for cheating or lying?

Make a promise that you will never repeat it again, and repent deeply over it. Also, confession may at times be a means of forgiving yourself.

Really cheating and lying is a lot of weight you are carrying. To really forgive yourself you should just tell that person what you have done. Sure you will remember what you have done but that weight wil not be there to bring you down.

You have to accept the fact that you were wrong and then do the hardest part and let it go , but learn from the mistake

Being open to your self dealing with the problem addressing it and coming to terms is one of the first steps to recovery.

You did what you did because of certain factors at that time in your life. You aren't the first person to cheat or lie and you're highly unlikely to be the last. Instead, think about what forced you into that position, how did it make you feel and what did you learn from it? If the consequences of such actions were a little hard to bear or hurt those closest to you, take it away as a lesson. It may somehow save you from committing the same acts and feeling the same way in future.

Well, don't be too hard on yourself, everybody makes mistakes, and if you did that, its because something was wrong in your relationship. It was a signal that something is really wrong. If you have remorse, it means you have a consciousness, and you realize what you did wasn't good. Don't forget that you and your partner are in a relationship together, it's not just you and what you did.

Sometimes forgiving yourself for a behavior can be very difficult because you're angry at yourself. You have to remember that while your behavior wasn't exactly role model material, you're not a bad person. You just made one mistake. Forgiveness for yourself might take a bit, depending on you. You should read the self-help guide on forgiveness. You can find this by clicking Path > Self-help guides and then on that list you will see a guide titled "forgiveness".

Grieve. Take accountability for ur actions. Apologize to who u hurt. Heal & dont punish urself 4ever

The first step in solving any problem is in recognising that there is one. Regardless of whether your action was a first or has happened before, you must think about how you came to that position and what you can do differently. Accepting/directing blame can be the easiest reaction but helps nobody I can assure you. Everytime I've ever made a mistake however big or small, I'm way ahead of anybody else to point it out and give myself a really hard time. It proves nothing apart from possessing a clear lack of self-esteem of which I am only keeping down by focusing on punishing myself essentially. Understand that forgiveness is vital in order to move on and be happy, but that doesn't mean you have to forget, as you must learn from your past also, in order to grow and avoid obstacles such as ones already committed. And remember that we are all in search of love and happiness despite the mean faces and dark places that exist, making mistakes is part of our process in doing just that.

Accept the fact that everyone makes mistakes. Not everything you do in life is going to be perfect, and considering the fact that you're feeling guilty - odds are you've suffered enough. Make a mantra to repeat so you don't make the same mistake, and work from it. Every day is a new day.