How do you forgive someone that will never change?

It all depends really. Sometimes people expect for others to change. However, if the individual does not tell the other what they are doing wrong, how can they change? For example, a wife gets upset because her husband forgot their anniversary. However, she knows her husband is forgetful. Yet, she expects him to remember and will not tell him their anniversary was two weeks ago. It's nonsensical. She waits for the next year and the same thing happens. She gets fed up and tells him he is never going to change. All she had to do was remind him. There are times when you have truly communicated. Explain how what they do upsets you. How it makes you feel. If everything has been done and there is no change, I would say it's time to move on. You have to give them a chance first. People don't read minds.

When it comes to forgiving someone who will never change, it is important to understand that your forgiveness in not a requirement. If you try to forgive someone who doesn't deserve your forgiveness and will use it to take advantage of you, you should consider who in this situation deserves compassion- yourself, or the person searching for your forgiveness. Forgiveness is not a one way street. The person who has hurt you should not be allowed to continue without having learned a lesson in kindness. However, if you feel burdened by the experience and wish to simply let it go, you are allowed to forgive while still not forgetting what this person has done. Your emotions are valid and your responses are valid so long and you do not allow this experience to weigh negatively on you or cause you to do bad things.