How do I stop being judgemental?

Just try to inculcate the belief that not everyone is the same. There are all kinds of people in this world. Think how boring it would be if everyone had the same personalities or if everyone would talk, think, act like you. Its also important to ignore the minor bad qualities that people have and focus on the good ones bcoz no one is perfect. Slowly, it will form a habit if you wire your brain to think this way. Appreciate the unique personalities of everyone around you.

Judging someone based on race, color, gender, appearance, looks or the class they belong to, is actually a reflection of our inner self. When we call someone ugly, it doesn't mean the person who you pointed your finger is ugly. It is you and your inner self which cannot help but having insecurities about your own look is the culprit. So, we can we literally overcome this? Well, to stop being judgmental at all, we should stop paying too much attention on materialistic and physically visible materials at all. In contrast, we should try to appreciate the other peoples' whatsoever appearance, look, or color, with love. I hope this can stop yourself from being judgmental.

Take a look in the mirror. You need to stop for a moment and think about what you're doing. I know it's easier said than done, but try it. If you are self aware of your judgemental attitude then you are already a step forward to overcoming it. When people judge others, it's based on the life experience and stereotypes we've built up in our own minds - those people you are judging aren't one dimensional characters, don't be fooled by appearances. Instead, try to understand and accept that person. I think it's also important to note that we're all judgemental, it's human nature. The fact you want to stop being judgmental speaks lengths about your character, you do want to be a warm-hearted, kind person and that's all we can hope for as a society. Hope this helped.

Being judgmental is focusing on only one area regarding a person or a situation. To stop being judgmental; you need to stop falling a victim for the obvious. Always see things from another perspective. If you're about to judge someone or a situation you focus on the area that you saw. If you focused on another area that you weren't thinking about it, you'll see the person or the situation from another perspective, and then you'll know that the judgement you've created may not be true because you have assumed other alternatives to your judgement, and that's my friend you being not judgmental.

Think about it for a second: we see someone, and based on their looks or actions, we pass judgment on them. Not good judgment, either. Usually without even knowing the person. And that’s it — that’s usually the extent of our interaction with that person. We don’t make an effort to get to know the person, or understand them, or see whether our judgment was right or not. And let’s consider what happens when we pass judgment on people we do know. We see something they do, and get angry at it, or disappointed in the person, or think worse of them. We judge, without understanding. And that’s the end of it — we don’t try to find out more, and through communication begin to understand, and through understanding begin to build a bridge between two human beings.

Firstly you have to want to stop doing anything before you can stop doing it. Judgement comes from us not feeling good about ourselves, from something we are insecure with. For example judging how someone looks is often because we are unhappy with how we look or we think how they look is unacceptable in some way because we have conditions on what is acceptable. These conditions of worth come from childhood and our caregivers but are not always positive or helpful. You could ask yourself "why am I judgmental?" try to answer this honestly to see where it comes from. Understanding why you do something if often the way to stop that behavior, if you want to.

Take a moment to realize what you're doing and how it may affect other people's lives. Being judgemental will not only impact others, but negatively affect yourself as well. It's not too late to change. Starting opening up to others and accepting everyone within the community. Surround yourself with people who accept you as well. Realize how you can positively interact with others and expand your relationships based on the people you meet. Understand why everyone says certain things or acts a certain way. You never know what he or she may be going through. Be the bigger person and make others realize the same mistake!

You just need to learn to let things go, possible try and rethink why you need to feel judgemental, if you feel like there is no need to just take a step back and re-evaluate the situation. Even ask yourself, " does this really bother me?" "why am i seeking energy to judge someone?" It is very easy to judge, so taking the time to re-evaluate the situation has always helped me. Giving that few seconds will make a difference and keep you unbothered about the smallest things, such as judging someone on what ever it may be. :)

I think judgement comes from a lot of places. We are all humans, and we all make mistakes and come from different backgrounds. For me, I try my hardest to put myself or a loved one in their shoes. How would I want others to react to them? What would they need from others or myself? I have to ignore what my upbringing or society says sometimes to do this. Life is so different for everybody, and I am not sure how others stop from being judgemental. We are here with you through the journey. Thank you for reaching out.

By always putting myself in their shoes. I am a black woman and we are looked down on and judged so much, I said that I would not make others feel the way that I did when people would judge me before knowing me.