How do I stop being judgemental?

There may be plenty of reasons why someone might be judgmental. Everyone judges things and people all the time, and is a natural part of being human. If you feel you're overly judgmental over yourself or others that negatively affects you, I can offer some tips that helped me become less judgmental (which may or may not work for you). Accept flaws. Understand that nobody and nothing is perfect, and we're allowed to make mistakes and have flaws. Despite flaws, people and things also have good qualities, and that's why it might be important to also: Recognise positives. Everyone has their own strengths, and when we recognise and focus on them, it can build compassion. Practise mindfulness. By practising mindfulness, you can become more aware of whenever you are having judgmental thoughts about yourself or someone else. Then, when you let go of the judgmental thoughts, you can return back to the present moment.

Think about how it makes you feel every time you are judgmental. Does it make you feel good? Keep a record of how many times you make a judgmental remark for 7 days and how you feel every time you make such statements. Then create a specific plan of how you can be less judgmental. For example, make a plan to replace judgmental statements with more positive statements. Record your progress and how you are feeling. Reflect on it and modify your plan if it is not working. Keep trying to think of new ways you can be less judgmental, execute your plan and stick with you plan until it becomes a habit.

Think of how you would feel in their situation, empathy really is the key very often. Try to understand the person and their actions instead of jumping to conclusions and judging them. And accept their decisions to rationally comprehend the situation. If you judge them right away or even in general it tends to make the person self doubt even more which can inversely affect their self esteem even when it may not be their fault in the situation. Similarly judging someone actually makes you feel bad about yourself too. Consciously or subconsciously you may feel bad about what you said and lower your own self esteem as a part of you thinks that others will also judge you in a similar manner. And another part of you thinks of yourself as a bad person for casting such harsh judgments on others. Therefore being judgemental has a negative impact on all parties involved.

Some people do not even realize that they are judgemental. If you find yourself more often than not thinking your actions are better than others then this maybe you. Sometimes we are raised to think there is only one way to do things. Being judgemental can hurt relationships because the simple act of judging can make others uncomfortable and feel bad about themselves. You may even be hard on yourself because it may be hard for you to live up to your own expectations. Putting yourself in someone else's shoes may increase your understanding as to why people do what they do. Some people can only see things through their own perspective. If you are one of those people then start asking your friends their opinions as to why people do what they do. Hopefully, in time you will become a more rounded thinker. Learning to understand others and their choices may increase your self-esteem and improve your social relationships.

Some of the steps to not being so judgemental is putting yourself in other people's shoes. When I became a listener and a crisis counselor I had to really push myself to put myself in other people's shoes. It shows us as people that we make the judgements on the beliefs that we don't understand at times. There's no real answer to stop it, it's just catching yourself and making yourself a better person. It will take time, and it will be a process. Just keep working at and it you will make great progress at it. As everything will take time.

Being judgemental is human nature, you can never fully stop being judgmental. but you can learn how to handle it better and how to show it in a way that is not harmful. Putting yourself in the other person spot is always the best, it gives you an insight into them and whats going on in their eyes. Also learning to understand that things comprehend differently to everyone, one simple thing can come off as something totally different to another person. Being judgmental can be good if it's used to help others and yourself grow. Don't try to focus on not being judgmental because in some situations ts what needs to happen.

Hm.. okay, well, i think one should first start by considering a few things. First, who are you judging? Second, -why- are you judging them? Third, is your judgement valid in a moral sense or is it driven by something else? Try to put yourself in the other person's shoes and incorporate whatever you know about their life and current conditions, then consider the current moment. Say, for some reason, you're judging someone you see on the street in a tent. Perhaps you think they're disgusting for coming out and begging people for money when they don't need to. WHY are you thinking that? Is there evidence to back it up? Perhaps they truly don't have a home or a job, and they're struggling through life. And, circumstances in their life probably led them there - not necessarily their own choices, either. Before you say something or believe something, analyse it. In your life going forward, frequently stop and think about things in this way - examine your judgement from the other person's angle and really think about why they're saying something or acting in a particular manner. Over time, you may judge less and consider things like this more often.

Being judgement is a choice I believe. Before judging anyone one have to remember, what if I was in other persons shoes, what if I was there? And we never know the journey of other person, we never know how much one person have struggled to be where they’re today and why they’re doing something that they’re doing. Judging is easy, but being on other side is difficult! Sometimes is hard to understand others point of view but if we consider ourselves in same position we will know how bad it feels to be judged by someone, spread love and positivity, worlds need it. 💥

I think the best way to stop being judgmental is to change your mindset about the way you view others and the way you view situations in life. Before I go into this, I just wanted to say that it's very admirable of you to want to improve yourself. So, the best way to stop this mindset is to adopt a positive one that appreciates others for their achievements and sees the positives. Of course, I'm not saying to completely overlook other's negative traits, but don't let those negative traits encompass your overall view of them. Remember that people make mistakes too and that not everyone will think similarly to you. And finally, take the time to focus on yourself and your own improvement. Judging others and comparing yourself to them only keeps your life stagnant.

It is a long process, so the first person you need to exempt from your judgment is yourself... Don't be too harsh on yourself for taking time to achieve your goal. I would say honestly if you are asking the question you are on the right path. It just takes time and effort to notice when you are judging someone and thinking about why you are thinking that, if you can understand why the person is doing what she is doing... Someone in a Ted talks said that it is very hard to judge someone and give him love at the same time, and I find that to be very true. Try to be empathic when you realize you are judging someone. Have a good day, sending lots of love!