How do I stop being judgemental?

The best way to do this is by reminding yourself that no one is perfect on this earth. We all have flaws of our own because we all are humans. And to err is human. We all make blunders in our lives. Whenever we feel like judging someone we should think that how would we feel if someone judged us? No one likes to be criticized. Even though we make mistakes, we want people to forget about that, we want people to only remember good things about us. Some people don't even care but most of us want to be in good books of others. We should try our best not to be judgmental because if we did that today, tomorrow somebody else would do the same to us.

Whenever I find myself judging someone, I immediately think, "no that's not how you should think! There's nothing wrong in [judged behaviour]. It's okay. She's just being herself, there's nothing wrong about that " And if possible, I think of one (or more) compliments for that person, so that I don't feel negative about him or her. For example I'll think "at least she's honest and true about herself, and that's great! Not many people can do that." And I may even tell her the compliment too. So to stop being judgemental in any situation, think the opposite, and more positive thought. Give others the benefit of the doubt, instead of accepting the first (negative) thought that comes to mind. Challenge that judgemental thought.

A good first step to stop being judgemental is to put your self in that persons shoes. Step out side of yourself and imagine that you are them for a moment, would you want to be judge the way you are judging them? What would you say to a friend who was going through this? Some times it is easy to judge people simply by the way the look or how they dress, but we all have our own demons and our own things we are working through. Work on understanding other people and get to know them for who they are on the inside.

A way to stop being judgmental is to educate yourself on issues and differences that other people may have. Then you can try to accept that everyone is different, and while you don’t need to agree with their views, don’t judge them; everyone is different and you may have never walked a day in their shoes so you don’t know how they feel. Also, just talk to people. Learn about what they are going through and maybe talking to them will help you be more accepting and less judgmental. Don’t make comments or decide your opinion is right before actually understanding or talking to someone.

It's not the first thought that counts, it's the second. If you see someone walk onto a room and your first thought criticises them in a way you don't really want to criticise them, but then your second thought is "hey, self, you shouldn't have thought that that wasn't nice" then that's the thought that really counts. Sometimes there is nothing we can do about that first thought but once we realise we could do better and should, then I believe we can. You can always try to be less judgemental by working on that second thought though, to train ourself to see those not so nice thoughts and learn to correct them

An easy way that I have found to help you not judge others is to ask yourself, what might be causing that person to act, react, feel this way? And try to put yourself in there shoes. A lot of time we have No Idea whats going on in other peoples lives or what their situation may be. Also I don't think that it is our place to judge anyone. Even though it is in our nature as humans to do so. I try to think about how it would make me feel if someone just immediately judged me about something they really had no clue about whatsoever. That doesn't even remotely sound fair.

Being judgemental is something that everyone is; there's no shame in it. There isn't a single person out there who hasn't once judged another person, no matter what they say! You aren't alone. Stopping so abruptly isn't easy, either: it takes time. What could be important to recognise is, everyone is different, everyone is unique, and nobody is perfect. I believe that this is the first stepping-stone in becoming a non-judgemental person; seeing that no one is the same, but different. This is just a simple fact; there is no single perfect person - equality, diversity and acceptance are all key in today's society.

I work on this problem for myself all the time, and I feel like there is no way to be non-judgmental because we will always have initial thoughts about something. Therefore, I interpret this as how to inhibit yourself from voicing these judgments. I think it's crucial to understand perspective about anything because your judgment will always be wrong. You will never fully understand someone enough to judge them and therefore you have no authority to voice your opinion on them based on the small glimpse of their complex life you have witnessed. By understanding this, it humbles yourself so that you aren't quick to judge others and also understand the importance of understanding others.

This is an incredible question, but it is quite hard to answer. Being judgemental is a part of our human nature, so we must accept that we may never be able to fully stop being judgemental. That is not a bad thing though, sometimes the ability to make a judgement is useful, for example risk assessments before crossing a road - we need to be able to make a judgement about when it is safe to cross the road so that we can stay safe. That said, we should strive to combat negative judgements. This is difficult, we can begin by telling ourselves the reasons that a person has acted in a certain way or why our current situation has ended up the way that it has. Bear in mind that making a judgement isn't harmful in itself, the way we share it or act up on it is. Remember, if a judgement could be harmful to others, it may be best to keep it to yourself. I hope this answers your question, if not then feel free to reach out to me. Have a lovely day, emi

Since you're asking this question, you've already taken the first step - you've noticed you're judgmental. Now comes the hard work of noticing when you're acting that way, when you are experiencing that pattern and working on changing your mindset. When you get better at observing you will find it easier to act upon this too, and by that I mean that you can take a moment to notice when you're about to be judgmental or harsh towards someone and just stop. Give yourself a little time and then either say nothing if you have nothing nice to say, or, when you become more in control, try to politely inquire about whatever brings out the judgmental feeling in you and to learn more about it. Sometimes we judge because we don't have adequate knowledge on a topic.