How do I stop being judgemental?

Self Positive talk, Learning that what you think and say can harm others and also make you feel miserable about yourself in the long run and it can cause arguments that you really do not want to happen . Always remember that what others go through we do not see , we only see what we choose to see. Open your mind and clear the negative thoughts and words and replace them with positive kind, caring words and know that no one is perfect and that we are all Unique and Loved . Judge not lest Ye Be Judge, Put yourself in the other persons shoes that you are judging. It is easier to love people then judge and hate.

Changing a behavior or belief is easier when one understands the purpose it serves. By understanding this, we can make sure that the framework of our world view is kept strong and healthy. Judgement is one kind of Discernment (which means 'seeing how things really are'). This is necessary for us to live in safety, which is a very high priority for our nervous system. The difference between Judgement and Discernment is very simple, and very powerful: the first has solidified values, and the second is flexible and investigative. What tricks people into becoming judgmental is that it is quicker and easier to assign a set value to a situation or challenge, than if one remains aware and open minded. It take effort to be Mindful, and much less so, to be reflexive. So, if you really want to become less judgmental, you must be willing to put out the energy to challenge your beliefs about the meaning of things, and their relative importance to you. Though this is not Easy , it is Possible. There are several well known methods of starting this process, CBT, DBT and Meditation. Each of these works in different ways to help the person challenge their beliefs, thought processes and reflexive responses. Eventually, people can re-invent themselves and become the kind of person they might have imagined themselves to be.

First you need to think that you are a human and everyone else is, we are not created equally and each and everyone of us has different flaws and uniqueness. Being judgemental isn't a sin, we are entitled of our own opinion about something or someone else but other people deserves to be observed first before can they are judged. Think of respect, the highest form of respect is respecting everything and not judging them, if you have to judge someone you need to ensure that you know this person well and you are no lesser than that person if you don't want to be judged as well.

Remember that nobody is perfect. We all have our flaws including you and that is fine. Also, some people might have excuses to what they achieve or what they do. Everyone has a different story to tell with different challenges. Are you judging people for superficial reasons? We can all judge people who are different than us but it doesn’t help anyone because we sometimes might assume things when we are judging and assuming doesn’t help, it just creates anger and confusion. We shouldn’t judge other people because we are all flawed human beings and that is normal, nobody is perfect.

The best way to stop being judgemental is to catch your judgemental thoughts when they come, and challenge them. For example, if you saw someone who's shoes you thought were horrendous, catch yourself thinking that and then look at the situation from their point of view and challenge the thought. They could have spent ages choosing those shoes out and they might really like them. And If that sounds too hard, try to just acknowledging the thoughts to start with, and then letting those thoughts just pass by. Gradually work your way up into challenging the thoughts to become less judgemental.

The best way is to seek the good in people instead of the bad as well as practicing the ability to focus on yourself. Not everyone will meld with you well, and that's okay. That's why it is so important to mainly focus on yourself rather than the negative qualities of others. Once you can do that, you won't feel the need to judge; rather, you'll be more confident and embrace positive qualities. Judging usually comes from our own insecurities so ask yourself the deep questions on why you are judgemental, and then take the necessary steps to focus on you. Everything else will follow through.

only when we are in the same situations as other, do we truly understand without judgment. when you know the facts, and its not what others think or assume. whenever you are aware of being judgmental just think about how it could be you being judged. I am very critical of most things worth looking at. this as a learned defence mechanism which I developed through mistrust of others and being cynical. many times being judgmental has worked in my favour, as it probably has for you. the downfall is that it can end up becoming a behaviour and over years is hard to unlearn.

Give the other person the benefit of the doubt and try to imagine what life might look like through their eyes. You never know what may be going on underneath the surface, and everyone has their own insecurities, doubts, and mannerisms that originated from some aspect of their lives. We are all people who were born under some set of circumstances and have since then, navigated the world based on our best judgments. Maybe the person sitting across from you had a rough week or did not grow up with people like you. These things do not necessarily give someone a pass for inconsiderate behavior, but we have all been there. Additionally, be aware of your biases and make an effort to counteract them. Many of us have inherent biases that we developed overtime, but it is important that we recognize them as to be sure we are not allowing them to cloud our view of someone.

Understand. Instead of judging someone for what he's/she's done or how he/she looks, try instead to understand the person. Put yourself in their shoes. If you can achieve this, you have just showed yourself that you are capable of showing not only empathy and love, but understanding of where another human being is coming from - which in return will help you improve yourself and understand where you are coming from. We are all humans and we all make mistakes whether we want it or not - that is part of being human. Knowing this will make it easier not to pass judgement where judgment is unjustified!

Open your heart and accept everyone as fellow earthling, who is sharing the same planet as yours. Regardless of whomever we are, at the end of the day we do everythung that is most human and natural as each other. We breath, we talk, eat and sleep like everyone else. If the nature never stop us from enjoying all these resources without judging, we, the fellow humans shouldn't too. We all feel pain, love, hunger and everything at the same level. If there is something that we should do apart from judging is caring, loving and accepting each other. :)