How do I quiet that voice in my head that tells me I'm not good enough to be loved?

Often it somehow creep in. When I get aware of it, it vanishes because I already have ample reasons to believe that I have exhibited qualities for which some people admired me. But that downward pulling voice surfaces time and again.

You prove it wrong. First, by loving yourself. If you love yourself, and if you accept who you are, you're actually proving yourself you are lovable. And that is the first step into being loved back.

This is a really great question, and I have a way to make it at least quiet down, if not make it shut up for good. First: recognize that the voice isn't you. It's depression, insecurities, and/or anxiety talking. Second: give your voice a name. My sister literally named her inside voice 'Stinky Pete' from the character in Toy Story 2. Third: whenever you're hearing that voice start talking again, you need to say something along the lines of "Shut up (voices name). I am good enough, and you are only in my head." Even if you don't believe that you are good enough, keep telling yourself that until finally the voice quiets down. If you're concrete and stubborn, it will slowly start to quiet down more and more once it realizes it's not invited:)

One thing I do is simply tell myself to stop. It sounds strange and sometimes it doesn't work, but telling myself to stop has become a habit so I don't notice it as often now. Also, I write out quotes on post-it notes as well as write out reasons why I am good enough to be loved and they are taped to the walls throughout my apartment :).

Reassure yourself everyday that you are good enough to be loved. There is someone out there that will love you in a relationship manner and there are people that already love you. Know that you are great just the way that you are!!

Take control over what you think. Always say to yourself that you are good enought. You become what you think. If you think you are weak, weak you will become, if you think you are strong, strong you will be.

To be able to quiet any little voice in your head, you can tell yourself that you are good enough to bed loved or that thing that you are struggling with.

Make a list - Make a list of your strengths, competencies and assets is a way of seeing a different you in the mirror. Make a list II - A list of realistic and achievable goals and dreams, a list of what is keeping you from achieving it, and a list of methods to work around it and accomplish your goals. Make a list III - Each morning make a list of the things you have achieved, it can be as simple as “Woke Up, Got out of Bed, Ate Breakfast etc.” - this will help you understand your accomplishments during the day and give yourself more credit for these small, influential feats. Philosophy wall - stick a piece of paper on your wall and write a new quote every day [| Philosophy Wall II - Stick another piece of paper and each day write on it 1 new thing you are grateful for [| Philosophy Wall III - Stick another piece of paper on the wall and each day write 1 thing you love about yourself - tell yourself this even if you don’t believe it, eventually you will be comfortable with these positive traits and learn to accept them. [| Labels - remove negative labels and replace it with positive ones, you will subconsciously conform to labels, so even if you don’t believe it at first, fake it and pretend.

You have to ignore that voice, its wrong and you have to except your good even if you doubt it just try to give yourself encouragemebnt.

You don't quiet the voice, you ignore the voice. You understand that the voice is wrong, because everyone is more than good enough to be loved