How do I keep myself from getting to attached to people?

Is it really such a bad thing to get attached to people? If you've had your trust or something similar broken by someone close to you then it can feel easiest to never get close to anyone again, but that is not a healthy lifestyle, so try and work on building whatever was broken back up again.

This is a really important question! I think the answer falls down to boundaries. It is important to decide the type of people you can go to and safely feel vulnerable with, comfortably being able to be who you are and feel the way you are. You also have to decide what information is shareable with the given people. It is okay to have strong bonds but you want them with the right people and to have set boundaries.

To keep yourself not so attached to someone is by not letting them take advantage of you. You have to make them earn what you have to offer. Never let them take to much space by keeping a fair distance in the friendzone. Always be true to ehat you think is a right amount of space for them to have in your life. If you believe that they are taking up to much, slip back. But, just keep them close to you but not yo close because the closest friends can become enemies in a matter of one second.

Attachment to others is a normal, healthy part of being human. It's nearly impossible to go through life without any meaningful relationships in your life. Instead of asking yourself how to avoid getting attached to other people, instead ask yourself: Am I afraid of making connections with others because I am terrified of being vulnerable? Am I scared of being hurt by letting someone in? Once you confront any hidden fears, then you will see your relationships with others in a different light. You'll see that's okay to open your heart to let others in, and the risk will pay off.

As naturally social creatures it is in our nature to want to form lasting close relationships with others. If the other person reciprocates this great however if not rejection hurts. Reading the other persons behaviour can help. If it appears that you do all the “leg work” & he/she seems to be happy to take or leave your company you may have become more attached to them than they are to you. Instead, follow at their pace. If you fear getting hurt tell them, perhaps things are moving too fast for you. Communication is key. Lonliness can often lead to becoming too attached to anyone who may show us the smallest amount of attention. If you find your days seem to be centred around this person, your losing other friends who feel they no longer see you as much as they would like or used to, or are generally preoccupied in thought with this person you maybe getting too attached. Remind yourself that whilst his or her company is great & the relationship (from your point of view) is flourishing investing ALL of yourself into it will leave you feeling you have nothing left if things don’t work out. Rather, keep a bit of you for you, you can be a great friend without having to totally deplete yourself. Then if things do not work out yes you may be hurt but you still get to walk away with something- the bits you kept for yourself, that part of “you” that only ever belonged to You.

Having been through several similar situations before, i realised that people are kind of meant to be attached to things as well as other people. When that moment comes when you are ready to open your wings and finally free yourself from whatever is holding you down, you suddenly come to understand that being interdependent is the key to feeling free. You can always make allies and work together with people to power up and produce amazing results and atcthe same time feel completely fine by being on your own two feet 😊 Loving yourself and allowing yourself to be loved and receive love is one of the steps one can take to release blockages in their relationship with other people as well as being undefeated by any negative approach. Love yourself like there is no tomorrow 🤗 and you will be rewarded by never letting yourself be attached to anything or anyone since you will realise you do not need such relationships when you have the best friend - yourself - 🌸

To keep yourself from getting attached to people you can make sure you have different people in your life that all offer you something different. That way you do not rely on just one person as that way end up getting attached to them to help and support you with everything you need or want in life. So share how you feel with people not even but just those that are close to you and you feel safe talking to. This way you do not have to rely on just one person to solve your problems and issues. That is why it is good to have different people in your lives.

My way of coping with it is treating people like children they are inside. Let them live their lives, look at them like a loving parent does - let them be free, let them grow and breathe. Everyone has their own path of life, they have their own feelings, opinions, decisions to take. For years now I'm used to calling people 'flowers'. I benevolently want them to live the best out of their lives, I want them to be happy. I want them to smile. That's why I will always smile to them, no matter what they choose. No matter if they leave me - I will always be there for them, because love is wanting someone to be happy.

I don't think getting attached is a bad thing. It' healthy to have deep, human relationships and connections. It unhealthy to shut everyone out and it makes your problems worse than they were before. Accept love into your life. You deserve that

I will always remember I am here only to help other people