How do I keep myself from getting to attached to people?

Don't. Unless that attachment is nonreciprocal e.g. liking someone and they don't like you back - then there's no reason why you should not get attached to people - as it is through the resulting relationships that we get over and distance ourselves from our negative history of attachment that has created this fear.

Try to keep to yourself as much as you can. Don't start staying at home or late at work, but just lay low and casual. Work on yourself and how you feel. Have fun with your friends but also be conscious of what you're doing and how you're feeling while doing a certain thing. This doesn't mean that you should becime self-absorbed but you should just be more aware of what you might be getting yourself into. Spend time to know yourself and the people you surround yourself with. Think positive and give a positive vibe, not to attract people towards you, but to keep yourself happy and satisfied with who you are.

Never swim across an ocean for someone who wouldn’t jump over a puddle for you. If you feel unhappy in that relationship, let it go. There is no use in holding on to it. You might think to yourself “one day they’ll see how important I am”’ but sadly that will never happen. They never had good intentions, and they’ll bottle up all the hurt and anger caused by the toxic people in their life and they’ll take it out on you. So please, take it from me. If you feel like they are half-assing the relationship, than leave before you’re left.

To want to stop oneself from becoming attached... that does not seem a sensible goal at all! Life is about being attached to people - in healthy ways of course - but without connection to others, life becomes devoid of meaning, it becomes empty, it becomes devoid of purpose! We fear becoming attached to others due to having been hurt before in forming unhealthy, dependent or codependent attachments. It is really worth studying these topics in much detail, and there is a great deal of very useful information online - and indeed on this site - in this respect. Definitely worth doing some research on this topic, and then some more, on the whole topic of attachment in general. Our experience of the world begins with attachment to our primary caregiver(s), and it is the quality of this attachment which will set the tone of the whole of our lives. To be whole is to be able to form healthy, secure attachments.

I learned this lesson the hard way unfortunately. After high school, my friends slowly went their own way and I tried so hard for them to stay together because I relied on their friendship because that’s what made me who I am. I felt I wasn’t anybody without my friends. However, it wasn’t until my very best friend of 8 years who broke my heart and made me the shell of a person for nearly 6 months and taught me the lesson that it was okay to put myself before others. I wasn’t being selfish. I just needed to work on myself and love who I am before I could truly love others. That is the best way to learn how to not become so attached to others. It takes time to realize that you need to trust yourself and not rely on strangers or friends so much. That does not mean to put people at arms length all the time or to shut people out. This just means to be able to find time for yourself and to be comfortable in your own skin. With this, you will eventually find yourself not getting yourself attached to people so easily because you are strong and trust and believe in yourself more.

Well, this is a very tough one because it is so easy to become attach to someone who believes in you or give you the attention that you desire. I would suggest to be slow to call people your friend because there are so many wolves in sheep clothing that just want to know about you so that they can use it against you at a later time. People can not hurt you if you do not allow them to get to close to you. Try the spirit by the spirit in other words watch how they treat other people when they are not talking to you. A good example is store clerks, people in the shopping line and at the red light and things of that nature, if they can be nice and understanding in difficult situations then they might be worthy of your friendship. I wish you nothing but the best of luck as you begin to form new relationships with people that come into your life.

You distance yourself, you don't want to get to attached for people who might leave you. You might lose the person, think about losing them too so you feel what might happen but not as bad, It sucks to get overly attached to someone because it causes anxiety. Make sure you really distance because it will help a ton. It hurts that you have to distance yourself from people you love but people tend to hurt other people. Sometimes it's just how it works. Don't give a person your all because if they tear you down you might lose.

In order to keep myself from getting to attached to people I must maintain my boundaries at all times. When in a counseling situation (that is my major) I must build a rapport with those who I serve but at the same time I need to keep a professional distance. If you do not keep a professional distance as is taught in our ethics you may be fined, sued or lose your practice and you license. Boundaries are so important when you are listening to people problems. There are a number of fields for mental health but we must keep professional distance.

Hi. We all need at some point or the other to be with someone , to share our joys and sorrows with someone whom we care and befriend . The problem here is you expect the same amount of love toured giving it to the other person and you get affected with what the" other " person does ( leaving in this case ) . 1. See you need to learn to LET GO . Trust me from what I've experienced in my life , I've let go of people and things which we're painful and you know what it won't affect me at all and I can see such drastic changes in me and so I suggest you do the same. 2. Humans and emotions though lovely , enchanting , but are "TEMPORARY" and an illusion . If not then how come emotions and human change by time . We l make memories and it will be created and replaced again and again. 3. Attachment.: Never ever give the power of destroying or uplifting yourself to the other person. This means you will get affected by the tiniest thing the other person will do. So, next time , let's not have any expectations . Focus on enjoying the company of the other person and if she/he again leaves then remember that : " New amazing things won't happen until to forget and leave the old ones"

You can always categorize people in importance levels to you. After doing so you would realise that really your career is the most important thing for you and no one is above that. You know when you don't have a successfully career and are struggling in life no one but your family is there to help you out, to take care of you and to love you. Even then you cannot consider your family to be more important than your career, that is the level of importance you have to give to your career. Thus, logically you can avoid being attached to people.