How do I help explain to a parent that what I feel is valid after they reacted badly?

Truth and love. Try to remain calm; nothing validates a parent's bad reaction more than acting out. Calmly restate yourself, try to rephrase what you said before, say things like "I'm sorry you feel that way but this is really important to me," or "I feel hurt that you are discrediting this. Please help me." or even just turn this question into your explanation: "What I feel is valid, but you reacted badly to it, and I really need help right now."

You can use an "I" message. I-messages can be used to express feelings to someone without being confrontational. For instance, saying: "I felt x when you did z," is a lot less aggressive and less accusatory than saying: "You make me x when you y."

You have no control over how your parent reacts. Nor do they have control over what you feel about it. All of us feel and must recognize that having feelings is part of being human. What we do about our feelings is up to us alone.

Calmly but firmly state your viewpoint. Make sure they understand that you are not trying to be combative, but are rather trying to give them a perspective on how you feel.

From personal experience, you just need perserverence. Keep on letting them know who you feel and eventually they should begin to understand. Maybe involve a professional into exploring your feelings with your parents.

By sitting down with them, and understanding /their/ viewpoint. And, then, explaining yours, to them.

I always felt to help others by becoming a good listener, counselor, mentor and I am here at 7 cups!

You could try and show them your views and show why you feel the way you do. Try and get them to sit and listen to what you have to say.

You can explain to them that you are a person with valid feelings and emotions and as they are your parents, they need to listen to you as a person even though you are younger than them.

Although this isn't an easy subject to approach, it depends on the parent, usually the best thing is to find a way to approach them without tipping them off, like maybe if it's a dad watch a sports show with him, and maybe softly offer up to say your opinion on something he did, and say that you respect his decisions and just wanted to say your opinion out loud cause you care for him to know how you feel, and then spill the beans.

Try to make them understand by explaining it in various ways.Often time parents do not want to listen because they believe that they know best all the time.

I would sit down with that parent and ask if I could talk to them. Simply start by telling them how you feel. Ask for them to hold their comments and wait till the end. Tell them everything that you have been feeling and be sincere. Don't start joking or anything to lighten up the mood. You want to sound serious so they understand the validity of what you're saying. They should understand. If they still don't, try going to a trusted adult or peer and tell them. They can then help convince your parent that how you feel is valid.

I try to not be defensive (or aggressive), and present things with calm, without blame, as if it was a story, in which I explain the reasons why the character (me) would be feeling a certain way, how it fits with my experience, beliefs, etc and therefore makes sense that I would feel this way.

I myself have struggled with this on many occasions. I would talk to them about it, express the importance of how you feel and what you have said, maybe ask they they reacted badly to it and try to have a peaceful conversation if possible. Let them know that how you feel is important and just as important to you for sharing it.

Tell them that you need there help that what your going throught needs there help that you love and need them.

Staying calm is the main key. It's going to be difficult, but then again it always is; no one got a handbook on how to deal with parents, or vice versa. Staying calm and focusing only on the issue will help to get your point across, and even if they don't understand, at least you did the best you could.

I think the first step to this is focusing on yourself and not needing to be validated. You don't need someone else to tell you your feelings are okay when you're the one feeling them!

One of the best ways to explain that your emotions are valid is to sit down with your parents, and be honest with how you feel. Sometimes like in situations of abuse, when you confront the abuser with something they don't want to believe, they may not believe it as real. Or in situations of bullying, depression, anxiety or relationship stress in your own life, when you share those experiences and your resulted feelings with your parents, they may not want to believe it because it hurts them so much. The main thing is, regardless of what it is that you have shared with them, it's important that they understand your feelings. Sit down with them, and express the fact of how much your emotions and experiences have been affecting you. If they still deem them invalid, check with a therapist about your parent's behavior!

Well, hopefully they are able to cool down and you can bring the topic up when they are calm again. And if that happens, maybe you can ask them to think about a time when they were young and felt as if their feelings weren't taken seriously. Hopefully they are open enough to do this and can understand where you are coming from. I hope that helps.

By making them feel that you respect and justify their point of view also but it is based on their own set of values imbibed during their own upbringing. Convince them that as time progresses ,values, ideas and attitudes also change. Every next generation evolve their own values and ideas so please try to understand my age and trust me that whatever I'm doing or believing is best suited to current situation.