How do I help explain to a parent that what I feel is valid after they reacted badly?

Parents will always think good for their children. But they are also human and can make mistakes. Even though they think what they are thinking is good for the child, they can be wrong. Make the parent understand that their opinion matters to you and will always matter but You should be the one making decisions about your life. Take baby steps. Make them allow you to make small decisions of your life at first. Then gradually make more and more decisions yourself along with consulting your parents. When the parent sees that you can make your own decisions in a good way they will start to give you more autonomy, even when they sometimes disagree with your decision and react badly.

I've been in this situation before, and I know how stressful and nerve-wracking confronting parents can be. You have to be mindful of how your parent could react to what you say. Is it something that could make them angry? Would they be understanding? Think of ways to express what you feel in a way that they understand. Remember that the goal isn't to get them to agree with you; it's to have them validate you. Brainstorm what you say based on seeking validation rather than persuasion, and remember to be completely honest. Validate them too by acknowledging their previous reaction.

Describing a reaction as bad is a relative term. Such a reaction would vary from person to person. Only you would know what the specific reaction of your parent would be. In previous situations where such a reaction was observed, think about what helped to diffuse situation. Is it better to seek another appropriate time? Is my tone respectful? What would be the best choice of words? Am I interrupting when my parent speaks? Do I sound like I am talking back to my parent? How is my body language? Am I rolling my eyes? Am I shrugging? Do I appear closed off, like I'm ignoring what they're saying? Am I being reasonable? Am I willing to hear their side? Think about how you'd like your parent to respond to you and give them the same courtesy. Since your parent is in the position of power, considering the possibility that you may not get your way this time, helps you prepare beforehand on how to react calmly. Communicating maturely in the present will serve you in good stead for future occasions, even when relating to people other than your parent.

Ask if you can have a conversation with them because you have a few concerns and would like to talk to them about them. You have every right to have this conversation. Especially if you are feeling badly or confused. Start by asking if you could have a few minutes of their time because you have a couple of concerns you would like to talk about. If it’s not a good time for them, ask when you can have a few minutes of their time to talk about your concerns. They then have the option of accepting your request or declining to discuss your concerns

Firstly stay calm! Do not fight fire with more fire. Try and figure out how you are currently feeling. Angry? irritated? Devalidated? you need this for the next technique i have learned from a listener a log time ago! when you have calmed down and taken your time to figure out how you are feeling. You can pick up a conversation at a different point when everyone is calm and has the time to listen. And here is where the technique comes in, this being: Talk from how you are feeling. Do not accuse! say things like: the way you reacted to my (fill in conondrum") Made me feel such a such way. But i do feel such and such a way about this conondrum. This made me feel as if how i felt was not valid. With this conversation technique you do not accuse anyone of anything so they will not feel attacked or jugded. most of the time. But it does make it clear in a friendly nonhostile way how you feel. And gets across the point you wanted to make in the first place.

Explain to them how it makes you feel and describe how you’re feeling and how it is affecting your daily life. Explain why you’re feeling that way and that it really is affecting you and that you’re being serious, and what you’re feeling is real. Try to calm them down and tell them you wouldn’t be talking to them if you didn’t think it was that serious, and that you want them to consider your feelings and be validated. Ask them why they reacted like that and try to have a conversation with them about it and try to get along.

I think it is very hard for parents to not react on our situation. When we are young they are used to react to every single cry, always! As we grow older I believe it is hard to step out of the way and acknowledge that we can deal with our situations quite well, or that we can grow into it. Especially when their kids are facing a challenge, it is hard for a parent not to interfere, and this is something one also has to respect. I would explain to a parent that I acknowledge their attempt to act, and that I appreciate that. But, that I need more support, rather than someone else taking over. Therefore it is crucial to feel seen and accepted in the situation that I am in, with all its emotional turmoil.

It's great that you are in touch with your own emotions and understand your thoughts. How do you think you could best express them to this parent? How do you think they will react? I know how hard it can be to talk to someone about their actions and decisions, but do you think talking to this parent will help the situation or resolve your feelings? think of ways you can combat this situation that will be easier for you or won't contribute to your feelings of nervousness. Ask yourself if you are sure about what you're feeling and consider if you think this is something necessary in helping you with your feelings.

It is going to be hard to do it, but you will have to be the bigger man or woman in the situation even if your parent continues to treat you unfairly. It may be easy to fight fire with fire, but that will only create a bigger issue. You have to take initiative, walk up to your parents, ask them if they are available, and open up about how you feel and what you feel. It sounds cliche and generic, but being straightforward is better than beating around the bush and hoping that they understand later. People are a lot more loving and care than society makes them out to be. I wish you the best, and I believe in you!

Personally, what worked for me is explaining what they made me feel, why, and how that has impacted me. If the parents cares for your emotions, they will usually acknowledge that and try to grow. Try expressing, as well, that you understand why they reacted the way they did. They're people too. Have a conversation with them where you treat them as equals. I do want to emphasize that sometimes parents can be more focused on themselves and their own problems to the point of being somewhat blind to yours. Stay calm. Sometimes they won't be as supportive as they could be, and it's important to validate yourself if that's the case.

Explain your point calmly and professionally. They will listen to a mature voice. Do not raise your voice and approach the situation appropriately.

Emphasize on how your feeling, try and make them understand that these feelings your having are real, and that you can't help but feel them.

Sometimes they won't understand the validity of your feelings, the important thing is that you know you're being honest with yourself and that you know what you feel is definitely valid.

you can explain to a parent that what you feel is valid after they reacted badly by first finding them when they are calm and carefully and slowly explaining it to them in the kindest way possible

Wait until everyone is calm and then explain your feelings, whether they accept it is another story.

Wait for the parent to calm down if they seem stressed, angry or frustrated. And then when they appear to be 'level headed' try to bring the conversation up and calmly explain to them how you feel and that what you feel is right. If you need help ask for it and it will ease the conversation by making them feel appreciated

Let them calm down ,wait for some time and after that you should try to explain the situation using some practical examples. Always works for me. 😃

Once they've reacted badly, give them space. Calmly state that your feelings are your own and real, and then leave the area. Once they're are calmer (you as well) try to bring up the subject again.

I`m not sure if you can. Because the bad reaction to you often shows a certain amount of ignorance. Of course you can try to explain yourself, but often the bad reaction itsself shows a certain lack of tolerance for certain things you do.

Tell them that even if they don't agree, don't understand, or don't want you to feel that, you'll still feel that way, tell them that is a real feeling even if they don't want it to be.