How can I stop hating and criticizing myself so much?

¡Comienza a ser tú mismo y deja de pensar en los demás! La única persona que debe importarte eres tú, tú vales mucho, tú eres de oro.

By believing in yourself and your actions. Think about what you can do in life for yourself and others.

You should understand that everyone is beautiful in their own way. It's what makes use unique. You should never compare yourself to others, because what suits others might not suit you.

Learn to recognise what you love about yourself and when you see that in yourself, compliment it rather than critizing your imperfections. Get in to the habit of thinking positively over negatively and be nicer to others and you will soon be nice to yourself.

Self critique is sometimes important and can be a useful tool to help us see our flaws/weaknesses from a deeper perspective, and that should encourage us to do better each time. However, if we constantly blames and judge ourselves for the reasons that it wasn't something we're responsible for in the first place or can be in charge of - certain situations (because we cannot control everything in our lives) then that approach/attitude can be very unhealthy. If you've achieved a goal or did something nice for your family or friends, and you made them happy which in most cases you would, then be proud of yourself that you have shown love and care for the other person. The truth is there is more happiness in giving than there is in receiving.

This is a very difficult, and even a pretty personal question, as people have different reasons for feeling certain ways. Try to find something small each day that can help you feel more positively about yourself- for example, each night before bed, think of one good thing you did that day, and really appreciate yourself for the way you acted. Or, if it's more of an personal body-image/appearance thing, each morning while getting ready for the day, try to pick one thing in your outfit/appearance that you might be really proud of (i.e. "Wow, my hair looks really nice today!" or "My skin looks clearer today," or "I like the way these jeans fit.") Try a little thing at first, and work your way towards a continuous self-love and self-care practice!

I always use a few moments of my morning to give myself positive affirmations, tell myself things I love/like about myself. I stay away from the negative. The more you practice Mindfulness skills and Self Validation the easier it is to love yourself. Everyday just look in the mirror and tell yourself everything, even if you start to think negatively, just keep reassuring yourself of the positive things. It may take a month or two to see real results maybe sooner than that but gradually you will no longer have to practice it and it will become automatic :). I hope that helps.

I try to remember daily to write things I am grateful for, sometimes just the little things I overlook can lift my spirit to reflect on what is good in my life rather than what I don’t “like,” as simple as; “I am grateful to have a bed to sleep in”, can bring my focus back on the things that remind me that I’m doing great, where I am right now! Bringing my attention to what I do have as opposed to what I don’t have brings my emotions to a place of joy and helps keep me from criticizing what’s “wrong” with me & seeing what’s right with me.